I agree that you are a bit of a control freak. what a list!
My husband is one of 9 kids and only two look similar. Some were academic and some not.
My family is academic all the way back for centuries. Should I have rejected my husband because his father was not as educated as mine? Now more people are doing tertiary studies and have these enormous financial bills to pay off. I was already 40 by the time I looked into this and I know that in spite of all that was behind me I still didn't have a perfect life. I would bet that most of the girls that are doing ED are doing it to pay of study bills for the perfect life they think they are going to have.
The donor I chose was studying law and she looked a bit like my grandfather and she had the same blood group as me. I found out later she dropped law and went into photography and actually got a thriving business. "Life is what happens to us while we are busy making other plans" John Lennon.