Piper (Login Piper1111) Posted Nov 12, 2010 11:55 AM
In your normal, compassionate and thoughtful voice. I am so glad that you took the time to write these words.
If I may, I want to repeat a very important part of your post:
We need to be very, very careful about negatively judging older mothers. As women doing ivf and women doing DE ivf, we live in an almost identical glass house, regardless of our age. Plenty of people out there would be happy to take away the ability of infertile couples to do ART. Period & across the board, regardless of age. The public in general isn't making big allowances for younger women doing ivf, I don't think.
I think that so many people do not realize this. As someone who spends a great deal of time in and around legislatures, I can ardently report that this is true of our lawmakers and sadly the media portrayals are not doing us any favors. The last thing we need is to have lawmakers try to draw that line in the sand- but believe me, I tend to think (not altogether cynically, much more realistically- and sadly so) that DE will no longer be an option three to four years from now.
I have "known" Kacee for years- and I believe you that she runs rings around most women half her age! And Andrea- my cycle buddy, who unfortunately and sadly took three more years, tens of thousands more dollars and several more cycles before she finally had success at age 50- and she is a fantastic mom.
So I hope that we can realize that everyone IS different- but at the same time, understand the very real health risks of pregnancy in later life, and take every single possible step to minimize risks. But that goes for everyone as well- I am not just singling out a certain age group!