lauranz (Login phoebegrace) Posted Nov 28, 2010 4:17 PM
so we can't pay donors, nor can they be anon....not totally, anyway.
After going through all possible friends and family (and their daughters and neices and neighbours) putting out feelers to see whether anyone would be interested in donating, and keeping coming up against brick walls (some wanted to but discovered unknown health/fertility problems, some had relationship probs or DHs who changed their minds..) with much trepidation and negligible hope, we advertised in a small community newspaper and found the donor of our DREAMS, man. In a week. Absolutely perfect. We cycled within 4 months of her answering our ad, and got pg first pop.
We have only met once, but send numerous emails and txts when milestones are met or natural disasters strike (we had a massive earthquake here 3 months ago and are troubled with continuing aftershocks)....she is open to whatever communication we want, is very respectful about not intruding etc etc etc.
And she's only 21!!!
I'm fairly sure we'll have a bit more contact after baby comes; I don't think there can be too many adults in a child's life with some kind of connection to them; this babe will have no cousins living nearby, or aunties or uncles....so I relish the idea of just occassional contact if it works out.
HTH and keep us posted...