I don't think the actual IUI with the birth mom will cost too much,just the birth really. Birth mom has an 18 month old baby girl who she is managing to keep. She is going through a divorce at the moment, so I know there is no chance she would be able to look after another. Her whole reason for wanting to do this, is to give Dylan a sibling. I also think that she feels that this is her way of doing some good.......even though she has given 3 families the gift of a child. I remind her of that often. She has no family and looks at us as family although she doesn't know where we live.
Here in South Africa the birth mom has 60 days to change her mind once an adoption goes through. With Dylan she had 60 days. She is such a strong woman and only thought of her children when they were given up for adoption. She was brought up in foster care and is constantly trying to build that family that she never had, by choosing awful men.
She now has a 5 days week job and is getting back on her feet.