Oh my dear old board bud it is so nice to hear from you...(pg ment..child ment)..m
Hope2009 (no login) Posted Dec 22, 2010 4:42 PM
I so remember you and all you have endured over the years. I have often wondered how you are and if you were able to finally get pg with a keeper...if you are with your partner and if you are still riding horses.
I'm so very sorry to hear about your father's passing...this must have been a difficult year for you...but if I remember what a warrior you are I'm sure you are moving forward and learning wise lessons along the way.
It's so exciting that you are planning to move forward with DE's..and while the m/c's can be a concern usually using younger eggs is the key to success although it isn't always as quick and easy as many think...it can take a few tries before bringing your baby home so it's good that you are looking into all aspects of your health.
I don't know if you remember me as well I as I do you...we were on the ttc over 40 board...with Pat for years and I FINALLy did get pg with my oe's and had our DD Grace at 43..and although I did have another pg that lasted until 8 wks when I was 45...other than chemical m/c's I never had another oe baby. We decided to move forward with DE's when I had my last chemical at 47...too much pain and struggle.
I CAN'T really help you with clinic advise etc as I'm in Canada where I had to find my own donor and I worked with a clinic on the West Coast...our whole cost was around 20,000 Canadian as I think we reimbursed our donor well for her expenses...it's illegal to pay for time and effort etc in our country but we did give our donor a gift.
Since i FOUND her myself I was able to make sure that we shared the same features, we have the same build, colouring and even share the same philosophy...she felt that there was a soul waiting to come through and she wanted to help...we both loved yoga and she was really into sustainable living etc ...a loving and generous person...I kind of felt at times...she too that our soulbaby brought us together.
So if you are going down this road...a lot of trust that things will all fall into place is a good thing to acquire...letting go and trusting was my mantra.
Our first fresh cycle failed...another chemical despite my lining and the embryos..blasts being of the highest quality. After that my Dr. ran some blood tests and found that I tested positive for a blood clotting disorder called factor V leiden..inheritated by one parent...and so he put me on heparin for my next FET cycle and it was successful.
We have an 18 month old be(autiful boy, Will, (where there is a will there is a way)..and this past fall we did another FET and I still can't believe that we are expecting twins in June....so in the course of 2 years we have 3 babies....once you move forward it can happen this fast.
All total...it has cost 25,000 dollars but I have heard that going overseas is a lot less money...just not something we could have done since we have other children who need us at home...as it was we had to travel a day to our clinic but really nothing compared to going to the Czech republic..etc...some women have gone to South Africa with great success too.
Also, have you thought of adopting someone's embryos...I have heard that this is a lot less expensive and you can stay in the states...do a search and I'm sure you will find lots of posts on where to go. Does your partner have any SA issues/...i remember that he was smoking and that was your concern. using embryos can get around this...so much to consider hey?
Finally I just wanted to invite you over to the over 50 ttc, pg and parenting board...link above...you are so close to that number and the women there are fabulous...there are two of us pg with twins and we are all on a bit of a roll...it's nice to know that the age of our bodies isn't affected the ability to get pg...in so many cases it's just the eggs...hope to see you over there.
Well I'LL close..I just wantt to wish you a peaceful holiday...and a very happy NEW YEAR..I HOPE all your dreams will finally come true in 2011...has a nice ring to it don't you think?
bLESSings from your old novella writing board bud, Hope (Debrarey)