I posted the below response to the other anon responder; would love your input as well if you don't mind.
What were the factors that led you to DE? And how did you end up settling on IVF-NJ? How long was the wait for your donor? What were the end to end costs? Did you end up with any embies/blasts to freeze?
Here's a very personal question and I'm asking it because I am grappling with it. During the pregnancy and since the birth, have you had moments where you were consumed with thoughts of "OMG, she's beautiful/perfect/an angel (whatever superlative) but she's not of my OE" or along those lines? I'm so fearful that my mind will get cluttered with these unnecessary thoughts.
Thanks again for your original input! Happy New Year!!