I would try to sign up for different waiting lists if you can, but they might require consults first. Cooper would let you do the consult over the phone with an RE, then mail you lab orders for required tests you could do at home...technically you could only have to go to the clinic once (for transfer). I would first want to talk to the donor embryo coordinator to just ask questions about the embryo pool and waiting list.
You could also try an organization like miracles waiting . org. Some people want to donate their embryos but want to know they are going to a good home and they want to pick the recipients themselves.