intermountain (no login) Posted May 2, 2011 7:24 PM
Hello there Anon - I am an Asian Indian, in the same boat as you are. I have been looking for a donor since the past 5 months and have faced similar angst and frustration. A very limited pool, and everytime I find someone meeting the basic criteria, either she is taken, or doing her 5th or 6th cycle ( and in no mood of repeating) or she has zero resemblance to me or my DH's family. But all that being said, there are definitely some great noble Indian souls ready to donate . A kind woman on this forum suggested I go to agency wesites listed on ASRM's web page and I have found some good donors. They just did'nt work well for me -atleast thus far. But I wish you luck in this journey.
Regarding the culture aspect - aah, I am not telling anyone back home in India except my own sister about what all we are going through and what are we planning. I plan on telling never, because they will never get it or accept like you said. And the last person to be subject to all the nonsense is my would-be baby. That's enough for me.