My heart breaks for you. I am so so sorry. I am not sure if you have your beta yet. But please dont count yourself out until then.
I know the pain of POF all too well and I can imagine the pain when the one thing that is supposed to work for us doesnt work. But from being a lurker of the board for so many years, Ive seen so many successes after the pain of failure. I pray yours come soon enough.
From what I recall, you have many frostees. I really pray your success is still within these frostees.
In a mean time, be gentle with yourself and give yourself some time.