your situation is basically mine just swap out dh and wife roles. It will be his baby just not genetically. He will mourn the loss of his genetics at one point. However, I am sure both of you just want a family and to be loving parents. After the infertility battle, its all we have left, just the desire. Its not easy by any means. I would just either use this board as a support board for your husband or perhaps there are support boards for men. I wish you the best in your journey.