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Bharani (no login)
Posted Jun 30, 2011 6:26 PM
OMG I wrote all and it is gone before I posted.
Hello ladies,
The advice I need today is different than before. this July it will be 4 years since I got married. In the first year of my marriage dh talked about his ex- wife several times, and those time he was glorifying her, atitude, beauty, character wise...etc. One time I asked him when was his divorce. He said he doesn't remember. that is fishy for me. But I had another pain so I didn't care less. Last year (to be exact 1.5 years ago) I wanted to know when the divorce happen. I asked him again. He said he doesn't remember and I said I am out. He begged me, and I spoke to his mom. His mom is great woman, but her thinking is old fashion. It is ok, it can happen...blah blah..Finally, he came and begged me and said his next trip he would bring the divorce paper. He never did, it is 1.5 years ago. Last Saturday, in the middle of the night it came to my mind and it happened another time also. So, I asked him again last Saturday. He said oh I don't remember and we moved on... My concern is that how come you don't remember a marriage you had and what is the reason you don't want to say it. He was talking about her, those time. what makes different to say the divorce time. He said finally I remember b/c I checked the divorce paper. That is BS for me. I just feel unease here. And I told him. He said I am over reacting to it. Please know divorce is unspeakable in my culture. so I can't share with my friends ( I don't have friends lately) I will share with my sister later on tonight. Are my questions reasonable or I am what dh said over reacting?
I am sorry. I know this site is for fertility but I really need what other woman would say, how would they react?
Many thanks |
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