Being open to many options will see your way to success (sucess ment)
THK (Login perthkitty) Posted Feb 26, 2012 10:21 PM
I know what you mean by being 'too particular'. Its ok to be particular however do not let this translate into you minimising your options.
The 'goal' is to have a child. I remember at the start of my journey I wanted this and that. My sister sat me down and said 'look here you will have to loosen up a bit on that stuff otherwise you will do yourself out of having a child. The more stringent you are the less your options'.
Just know my sister is straight down the line. Well I listened and dropped some things of my list and a lot more options opened up immediately.
Laura is correct when she says that many ladies appear fertile but on close examination they are not suitable as donors. This happened to us as well. I advertised and then interviewed many many ladies, narrowed the list down and got to a final four.
My doctor saw them all. One lady 'would probably overstimulate and end up in hospital', another lady 'had double depression in her family I advise against taking her', the third lady seemed just fine so we decided on her. We 'kept' one lady as a possible surrogate but she turned out to be a right fruitcake.
After all the counselling sessions... a year had passed. This lovely lady didn't stimulate well and after all that time we were again up the creek.
We did the surrogacy in India and that was a major disaster. Then I met someone from this board who has a clinic in Kuala Lumpur. We went up there and checked it out. A month and a half later I had a transfer. Success after 8 cycles and never a positive. My little fella is asleep in the other room right now. It wasn't megga expensive.
Keep all your options open. Don't be a salmon go down the river
Write me if you want info on the clinic.
perthkitty @ yahoo . com
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I never ever want anyone to go through what we had to it was hard going, best to you, THK