Both posters need our support. But I do agree that when a poster is talking about children they already have, then that discussion is better for the pink board.
I don't think either poster meant to hurt anyone and I hope that both posters continue to post.
Anon, I hope you can get a screen name and stick around and I am sorry that you are having a hard time right now. Believe me, many of us have been there and this has been a source of support for a long time.
It is good to refresh our "etiquette" every once in a while.
I see that emily has already removed her post--I hope that she can repost it on the pink board.