Everyone stumbles into someone else's sensitive zone from time to time and you apologized for the unintentional hurt. Also Anonymous even felt bad and also apologized, though I personally didn't even think her post was harsh, just direct. It sounds like it's all okay now between everyone. I agree with you too, that grief is grief. I hope you are able to get it all worked out in time.
Btw I have been on other boards and these boards are by far so much more mature and sensitive by comparison. Stick around!