I appreciate the additional input. Unfortunately, the avoidance vibes are way too strong and way too blatant for me to mistake. If I can muster my guts, I probably should put it all back on the teen. You're right. The teen will probably stop asking to take baby to her house, where I have only been once in seven years, if I put the burden on teen's mom.
How can teen's mom NOT think I can read sooo many direct and blatant avoidance vibes? There are, of course, more than what I described except, during DH's illness. Suddenly, she took my calls, stopped by, took care of DS for a week, shopped for us, etc. Visitors really thought she was like a best bud.
Yes, it feels way to weird to let baby visit at a home where I assume I am not welcome. Thanks again.