But this is a great place to get ideas and support while you're figuring out your next step... You are welcome here. DH might change his tune, you might change your mind, maybe you two could consider embryo donation/adoption (it's substantially less $)...
Let go of the guilt. Nobody here wants you to feel guilty. We all have our own journey. We can support each other and feel for one another without guilt. You are certainly blessed with your husband and daughter