RaineyCat (Login RaineyCat) Posted May 17, 2012 3:58 PM
I'm so very sorry about your little one. I, too, had a m/c at about the same time with a singleton and I know how devastating that loss can be. I also know how tough it can be trying to balance that deep sadness with other joys in your life. For you, your other little one who's still thriving. For me, around the time of my loss, others in my life were having their babies or announcing their pregnancies. Take the time you need to grieve. And don't be afraid to ask people for what you need from them. (People want to help, but they don't know what to say or do.) Also, remember it's ok to be happy for the joys in your life as well. I can remember feeling guilty the first time I laughed after losing my little one. But then, slowly and gently, I was able to feel the loss AND experience those lighter emotions as well. You may not be able to believe it right now, but it really does get better after some time.