All BFNs suck. Getting through the disappointment is enough to shake even the strongest to the core.
I eventually got my SG doctor to tell me the outcome of my first failed fresh DE cycle when I declared we needed more testing on my DH. The doctor looked it up and found the other couple had a BFN too so "there was no need to do any more testing on me and my DH."
I haven't even bothered to call them back to discuss my latest failure. But when I do I will again try to get them to tell me the outcome of the other recipient. If I have any luck I will let you know.