that in my children's life time (and that includes my 5 oe children and our 3 DE's babies) that our world will come to realize that the genetic aspect is only our vehicle for coming into the world. I truly hope that they feel connected to everyone on this planet and not be too obsessed with their genetic connections.
However saying that I'm glad that we had to find our own donor and got to know her quite well before we cycled. I'm glad that she is open and will be happy to meet our chiildren if they ever feel the need and that she also shares my philosophy in life that we are spirits first, living an earthly experience to grow as souls. This was actually the missing piece for me when choosing a donor...I wanted someone who was donating her eggs b/c she felt like we were connected and she wanted to help to make a miracle happen.
When we had our first DE son although I felt that our family was complete, this was the one big reason we moved forward with another FET as just b/c I hoped that he would feel totally connected and related to our other children...I kept thinking of our frozen embryos and thought that it was important that we at least try to have his genetically linked sibling...as it turned out we have given him twin sisters which he is in love with...but he loves all his bigger brothers and sisters too.
So I hope we have covered all our bases for him to feel whole and complete in all ways. I want to tell him of the strong connection I felt to his soul before he was born...that he chose me to be his earth mom..and I could feel him vibrating close to me...that even though I didn't use my eggs to create his earth suit, my love for him found our donor, who was also vibrating in our circle and along with my DH we created a wonderful miracle...who is our son...and his sisters...I can't wait to tell him of his being...I think it is such an amazing story of the power of intention and magic manifestation.
But really does it really matter in the end how we came to 'be'...I hope that my message to my children...all of them is what is really important is that they all feel as though they are a piece of God and what they do when they are finally on earth is more important than the manner they came to be.
Some of my thoughts....this sort of unanswered question helps me to formulate the foundation to create for our family/children and hopefully help others to shift slightly in their perspective on what a relative is, who is family and what genetic/biological means to them.