Hello. I have been a lurker on these boards for quite some time. We went back and forth about using DE, adoption, and donor embyro. The first time, we picked adoption. As well as 2 bio kids who were concieved much earlier in life, we are proud parents to another daughter who is 5. We did domestic adoption for her. She also happens to have Down Syndrome. We are wanting to add one more child that is a bit closer to her age, and are back to the same questions. Adoption was hard. Our daughter has been totally worth it, but we are really wondering if we can put ourselves and our family through that. I have done some research, but am having a hard time finding clinics that have donor embie programs. I have seen the adoption ones, but are there any clinics that have people just willing to donate sometimes? It seems a bit strange for us to have to do a home study again. I have looked at the other board, bit there is not a lot of posting there. Thanks
Piper posts about this issue on occasion & is very educated on the issue, being involved in lobbying for reproductive rights, etc.
I've attached a previous post of hers that touches on the issues.
In general, what I've taken away from various discussions is that you want to look for clinics (or agencies if they exist) that do embryo donation and avoid agencies that do embryo adoption, as that terminology clues you into what they require, such as home studies as you mentioned.
Are you willing to travel? If not, in what general area are you looking to find donated embryos? This isn't an area I'm terribly familiar with, but I know there are some wise women on here who are knowledgeable & can point you in the right direction, particularly with some geographic info.
Thanks! We are in Colorado. I will travel, but not all that far.Yes, you are correct. Having to do a homestudy for an adoption is one thing. I understand that, but for embryos. That is a bit different. If someone wanted to see the homestudy, I guess that would be OK too.
to be a political agenda thing with home studies, etc. for embryos. B/c I have several frozen embryos myself, I do understand the attachment to those embryos once you have children from other cycles, but still, I would urge everyone - those donating & those seeking donations - to try & stick with clinics or agencies without the political agendas. It scares me that perhaps what helped me build my family - DE - may not be available for women in the future.
I would suggest re-posting on this board & maybe the pink board (DE pg. & parenting, linked above) with a title to the effect of "suggestions on donor embryos in or around CO."
A lot of posters read every post, but others only scan for titles (guilty of that myself, simply due to time constraints.)
We donated our frozen embryos through our clinic. I'd be happy to share info with you - although I don't know anything about CO. You can email me at andi333 at ymail.com. Just let me know here that you've sent an email as I don't check it much. In the meantime check out miracleswaiting.org. It's a website with tons of info and no agenda as far as I know. It is also a place where people try to connect with others who are donating embryos. There are people out there trying to find a home for there embryos...it's just a matter of finding someone who is a good fit for your family...and people range from donating to friends to donating anon. Good Luck!
This message has been edited by Andi777 on Dec 30, 2010 1:20 AM
My beautiful babies came to me via the clinic there. I only waited 4 months at the time to make the top of the list too! (You might have to call more than once though from what I have read recently. Also if it matters to you, they had by far mostly embryos from hispanic donors when I chose mine and I think just three caucasian. Luckily, I found my dream come true in their choices!)
Tehy must be getting better know though because even a month ago, there were a number of embryos not on reserve but last time I looked, only two were available. There is actually a clinic very near me (headquartered in Bedford TX) that does embryo donation for just $3500ish and doesn't seem to have much in the way of a waiting list - they were actually my Plan C at one point. http://www.embryo.net/) I don't know success rates there though.
but they're in NJ. CCRM in Englewood, CO has donor embies, but I had a consultation with them about 2-3 years ago, and a cycle was still more than 10k!!!
I've heard good things about Fertility and Surgical Associates in Thousand Oaks, CA. Also look for Yofi's posts. She knows about a clinic near Sacramento where you can get 3 donor embryo cycles very inexpensively.
We used CCRM for this cycle--our first success. The wait was long (4 years--we had given up), though they say the wait is closer to 18 months now and that the long wait was due to changes in the laws regarding donated embryos. It was expensive, but we were successful after failures with donor embryos from another clinic and donor eggs from yet another clinic.
I know there is a place in New Mexico that has a much shorter waiting list--I don't know the name of it however. Hopefully someone will chime in with that info. I believe there is also a clinic in California. I believe both are donated embryo, not adopted embryo clinics.
Have you searched the donor embryo board? It is not very active, but if you do a search you will probably find the names of the places that others have used.
Edited to say that now I see that others have written about the other clinics I mentioned...
This message has been edited by gr8tful1 on Dec 30, 2010 11:51 AM
Some may have patients who are interested in donating even if they don't have a program. When we had frozens I let my RE know and she called me when she had a patient who turned out to have a male factor problem as well. This was before they had a program. It can't hurt.
it seems like more clinics are starting to do this
December 30 2010, 5:09 PM
I am currently (7wks) pregnant using donor embryos. We went to the Nevada Center for Reproductive Medicine in Reno.
You might want to think about what areas you'd be willing to travel to and then check with clinics in those areas (and the ones near you too). It seems like some clinics do donor embryo but don't necessarily advertise the fact. My local clinic would be willing to do it, but it would have been an unknown waiting time for someone to donate.
Most of the established programs that I've heard of have already been mentioned:
-Nevada Center for Reproductive Medicine (no wait for me)
-Fertility and Surgical Associates (California)
-California Conceptions - newer program with 3 cycle success guarantee
-Cooper (New Jersey) larger program with a 6 mo - 1 year wait
-Dr. Sweet in Florida
-FIRM (in Florida)
-North Carolina Reproductive Medicine - knew one person who cycled with them
And as others have mentioned you can try to find your own match using miracleswaiting.org or your own networking online.