We met with RE a few days ago who is requiring that DH and I do additional testing including meeting with a psychologist whom she recommended. We were shocked to hear that the psychologist's fee is $275 for 50 minutes. Seems rather steep even for Los Angeles. Is that a typical charge?
I think we paid $280 for our donor psych consult. It was basically a one-hour interview, but also included the time for her to write up the report to send to the RE office. So it seems fairly typical to me (one place wanted to charge me $450).
Charges me $175/hr., and he implied that he was giving me a break b/c I'm direct pay. I'm in the DC area. So, it wouldn't surprise me. Is your RE really insisting that you use this pshrink? And this is testing for you, not your donor? I would be really concerned about; my understanding is that some clinics require counseling to make sure prospective recipients understand all the potential issues, but it's not supposed to be an evaluation. I'll be curious to hear what others say. Maggie (in VA)
I couldn't agree more. All the clinics in my area demanded a psych consult, which I found paternalistic and insulting. The only reason they gave for demanding one was to make sure we had "thought through the fact that we'd using foreign genetic material." But they don't do psych consults for women using anon donor sperm...which I found interesting. I was furious that I had to take an hour of my day to have them lecture me on the imporatance of being up front with offspring about the fact that we are using donor egg. I'm "no tell" and had to pay for an hour of how wrong the "no tell" policy is. I "yessed" them to death and nodded, and let me tell you , it was a hard job doing so....
Nobody should be required to sit through a lecture from a psychologist before doing DE IVF. Yes, I suspected they would lecture you about telling versus not telling. However, they ultimately have no control over what you choose to tell your child, or how you choose to parent your child. That is none of their business.
I have cycled both in the U.S. and overseas, and never been required to see a psychologist first. I would have refused and walked. Although I do understand some people have limited choices of clinics.
Thousands of people have babies every day, and nobody requires them to get a psychological clearance first. I am always disheartened to read about this going on. In most cases, it is simply another way to line the pockets of those in the counseling/psychology professions. Patients should start protesting these, and refusing to work with REs who require it. If we don't stand up for ourselves, nobody else will.
Ours was around 200 or 250 as well. But what I wanted to say is she was amazing. Not trying to see if we were OK for DE but wanted to make sure we had all the info we needed and had thought about all the issues involved. She helped us avoid surprises. Ours specialized in this and had written about it so it might be unusual, but I thought she was well worth the money.
Same here, and there was no agenda or lecturing thank goodness (pg ment)
April 14 2011, 3:13 PM
No lectures or discussion of tell-vs-no-tell, it was not a test of our ability to be parents, etc., just empathy about the stress of the process, taking time out for ourselves, it was easy to talk about because we had been through so much already including a DE child from another clinic.
I have been with a DE clinic that never required a psych consult, so when the new clinic wanted one as part of the required screening I thought it was unnecessary but if that was the way they did things, I wasn't going to argue.
When we first discussed doing DE with the RE, she said nothing about the psychological evaulation nor the cardiac stress test. These just came up a few days ago. We can understand the stress test because that has to do with my medical condition. DH attempted to talk her out of the need for the meeting with the psychologist, especially because we had a fairly rigorous evaluation with a social worker when going through the adoption process. But the RE said it's critical we meet with the psychologist because of our age. Just wish she would have mentioned all this a while ago. Yes, it does often seem like going the DE route is a bit exploitive and lines the pockets of quite a few for minimal services.