After almost 3 yrs , I have found a donor that I like . I am still waiting for the agency to get back to me with the donors availability . Her profile says her father passed away when he was 52 of heart failure , also mentions 4 out of 6 paternal uncles are deceased , ages /causes for death not mentioned . I am desperate and my ethnicity( East Indian ) is challenging to find . Is her medical history a deal breaker . Please say it is ok , Iam going to have to go ahead no matter what , I have not liked any other donor like I do her .

This kind of thing would be a deal breaker for some, but only you can determine which factors are the most important to you in a donor.

I do have a pretty extensive family history of heart problems (one grandparent died at 28, another in his early 40s, mother with high bp, father with bypass surgery, cousin had heart attack at 26). And that would not have stopped me in using my own eggs if I could have. I also have great grandparents who lived past 100, so in some ways it can be a crap shoot.

We did donor embryo not egg, but we did factor in family health history pretty heavily (albeit we had pretty limited choices). But we also did not have the same issues with trying to match ethnicity.

Can you get more info about the donor's health history to help guide your decision? The paternal uncle issue is alarming but without more info there is really no way to know what happened.

Do you plan to tell future child(ren) about using DE? If you moved forward and are planning to be no tell, you might want to consider somehow incorporating the heart issues into your own family history. I went for an EKG at 35 just to make sure there were no problems and am keeping an eye on blood pressure given my family history. Things like diet and lifestyle can also be big factors (note to self: exercise more!)

Just heard back from the agency , they have not heard back from the donor . Guess it is still not my time , sigh .

How is it going? I am currently beginning my cycle with donor embryo's starting with those darn BCP's. We have narrowed down our selection to 2 sets of embryos with 1 being our first choice. We are adopting our embryos through the clinic in NV. I am feeling a bit frustrated b/c the coordinator is telling me I may have to be on BCP up to 6 weeks. Since I am a patient of the RE that is only in the office occasionally I have to work around his schedule. I am trying to get in with the other RE if that would move things along sooner.
Again I hope you are doing well and please send me any advice or encouragement you may have to offer.
-J