Hi Ladies, I am an avid follower of the board. I am preparing for my second try at DE. This is after a failed fresh and frozen transfer last year. I am a patient at Cornell under the care of Dr. Davis. My husband was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer. The good news is that the Drs caught it early and his Gleason score is low. He is shying away from surgery due to the side effects. My husband is 46 and we are both shocked at this diagnosis. He is young to have prostate cancer, but his diagnosis looks good and for that we are truly thankful. We have frozen sperm banked and my husband would like us to forward so that's what we are doing. I am anxious because of all the failures in the past and the recent news. Are we doing the right thing moving forward? The donor is young and looks really great on paper although she is unproven. My mother has graciously offered to pay for this cycle, but I hate to be a financial burden. Does anyone know if Cornell provides financial assistance with any of their patients? I have been a patient of Dr. Davis for 4 years, (3 OE and 1 DE fresh & frozen). All suggestions/advice are welcomed.
you can try and call Cornell to ask if they offer financial assistance. Both myself and my daughter (DE) are patients at the hosptial and we consistently get mailings from them offering assistance if need be. There are also various organizations (religious) that offer financial aid.
I am sorry to hear about your DH but glad that the gleason score is low and that the prognosis is good.
Wish you good luck..Davis is great..terrific doc. Did you find out why the other cycles were not successful? Did he do any testing on you?
Best wishes for good luck.
I am sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis - but so glad to hear they caught it early. The good news is that prostate cancer IS NOT the end with the great treatments they have today... so YAY!!!!! I ENCOURAGE you and him to get the BEST treatment for him.. whatever that is. Being ALIVE and TOGETHER is what's important...
Unfortunately, my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer in the fall of 2010. The form of brain cancer he had IS a death sentence. He lived for 9 months. He was only 54. I am 42. We got to try for a child using donor eggs and his frozen sperm once while he was alive and now we're going to try again now that he's gone.
Get the financial assistance you need through Cornell, through the help of your mother, through a grant (I got a $25,000 grant for this cycle)... Don't feel bad about accepting help... feel blessed!! I just want to really encourage you.
Peace, prayers, and a good dose of luck and healing for you and your family!!
She wants a grandbaby! Trust me, she wants that grandchild much more than to be spared the financial burden of helping you with this cycle. I'm sorry about your DH's diagnosis, but I do understand it's one of the more treatable cancers. You know, if things do get worse for him in the future, would it be better if he never got to meet his own child? Just a thought. Good luck and take care, Maggie (in VA)
If you were going to be a financial burden then she wouldn't have offered. You will see once you are a mother that you make sacrifices for your children. Consider it a gift from your mom and hopefully you'll give something in return, A GRANDCHILD! Good luck and hoping that this cycle will be the one that makes your dreams a reality!