From my experience, I would go with proven (prg mentioned)
February 15 2012, 4:06 PM
My first two cycles were bfn's. The first I used an unproven donor cycling for the first time. The second was unproven as far as donor pregnancy but she had a child of her own so at the time I kinda thought that meant proven. On my third attempt I insisted on a proven donor and my donor match was proven with an ongoing donor pregnancy from her first cycle and I was going to be her next cycle. My cycle was also a success and I am now 17wks pregnant.
Maybe I could have just been unlucky in my first two cycle, came down on the wrong side of the odds. Both your possible donors have good stats so there isn't much in it, but purely from my own experience I would vote for Proven.
Actually the couple before us did not get pregnant with my donor. So, she was actually a known negative, if that makes sense. But I still wanted her and picked her anyways. My RE said if she was in the donor pool she was a good candidate.
I think I would pick the one you really want. Unless the second one is just so darn close then go with the proven one.
One thing that is nice about the proven donor is she has done it all before, knows the procedures and is wanting to do it again.
They're pretty even, so I'd go with your gut feeling, whatever that is. I tried to cycle with a proven donor, but it didn't work out for timing reasons, and we finally found a great donor - but she's unproven - I'm keeping my fingers crossed and telling myself, that for all those proven donors out there, someone had to go first!
No, IVF NJ is choosy on who they accept. The RE nurse said their #s are great. What has been your experience with DE and DE #s Some posts say lower age is key, one gal born in 1990 so will bee 22 this year and the other is born in 1985 so she will be 27. Some say older than 25 is bad
I used a friend who as my first donor. She had good stats, but we did not get frozen either fresh or frozen. It's hard to say exactly why, probably my own issues (septum, fibroid, MTHR, thrombophilia, etc.).
Our new RE insisted on using proven, but the donor we are using just completed a cycle which looked great in terms of numbers, but the other couple had a bfn. They do have frozens. They were at a big ivf center which has pretty bad stats, though.
Our RE approved her, we are now just waiting for a calendar to cycle next month. Since it took us a year to find her, and RE approved her, we decided to proceed.
I think our donor is under 2 (fsh) and she is 25. We did consider some older donors with previous pregnancies from being a donor, but the agencies that repped them misrepresented their backgrounds, so we moved on.
DH and I went with a 1st time donor whom we liked, was a good fit for us looks-wise, and had great physical and family medical history. However, we were in the shared risk program at SG, so we knew we could do more cycles if this donor didn't work out.
Fortunately, all it took was one good egg, and I am currently 11 wks preggo.
Sorry I don't think I even asked for her stats. Just knew she was only 22 yrs old.
Since DH is Caucasian and I am Asian, we were most focused on getting a donor who was Asian / Asian-American, and those donors are really hard to come by. Then, after we saw her great educational background and medical history, we were sold.
This was our 1st DE cycle, and we used Shady Grove in the DC/MD area.
Is 27 proven too old, she had 16 eggs retrieved from last cycle, justknow that their is an ongoing pregnancy. Her AFC is 14, FSH 6.8 and E2 is 29. She is 1 of 4 siblings. Her mom was fertile and maternal grandma had 4 kids too.
the 22 year old is not proven. She is an only child, her mom had her at 24. Her maternal grandma had 2 kids. But her numbers are better, due to younger age. Her AFC is 19, FSH 6.2 and E2 is 20.
I did not get pregnant using DE from proven ED, but got pregnant with unproven (preg ment)
February 15 2012, 9:42 PM
The BFN came from a cycle with a 24 year old. My clinic did not give stats on how many pregnancies resulted from ED, they just say if she's in their program, she has been proven to be a good donor candidate.
On that cycle I was in the 1:3 shared risk program at Shady Grove, meaning I was 1 of 3 recipients splitting the retrieved eggs. The resulting embryos were poor quality (not that some women have not had some beautiful babies with poor quality embryos, but we did not - don't know if that was the sole reason, but I am certain it didn't help.
3 months later, we cycled with an unproven, 31 year old mother of 2 - her youngest being only 2 years old at the time (which many of the ladies on the board helped me understand that showed this donor was fertile and likely a good bet). She didn't produce a lot of eggs, so 1 of the 3 recipients was cancelled.
We only got 5 eggs, 4 fertilized, 2 went to blast. At transfer the doctor STRONGLY advised us against going with transferring 2 blasts. She said she felt confident that a baby would result from at least one of the embryos. Both embryos were perfect, and the 2nd was frozen on Day 6. I will be 35 weeks pregnant on Friday.
So while I believe there is a lot to say for a proven donor, I am a strong believer that a donor who has not been traditionally proven, should not be overlooked for that mere fact, if there are other factors that make her a good bet.
Go with your gut, and just know that there are so many factors that contribute to make DE IVF work and so many that keep it from working.
FYI, ironically, my doctor actually told me point blank that he would choose a younger donor (he did not speak directly to her case, he was speaking about 31 yo compared to 24 yo). I am so glad we went with our gut.
Sorry I didn't read any other responses so not sure if this has been brought up already but I would choose proven just because it shows the donor is responsible enough to complete a cycle.
We used an unproven donor years ago and had no issues with her and have a child from that cycle so when we started looking for another donor we weren't too concerned about if a donor was proven or not. It took us about 18 months to be able to cycle because unproven donor after unproven donor kept dropping out. We went through many donors and wasted a lot of time and money on flakes. We finally concentrated our search on proven and was finally able to cycle a year and a half later and luckily got preg.
I'm not sure how often this happens (probably not very often) but it has definitely changed my views on unproven.
I went with an unproven 22 y o donor simply because she was the perfect match for me. I was her first cycle. I wound up with a baby from my fresh transfer from that cycle and a few frozens. For me, the match was the most important thing because a donor has to start somewhere. However, if you are worried about losing money should the cycle fail (I was not honestly), then you might want to lean towards proven but only you can decide how important the match is to you. Good luck.