DH and I are preparing for a cycle, but sadly, we are also amidst a great deal of stress, with a two dear parents battling for their lives due to various terminal illnesses, and a lawsuit which is threatening our business.
All before our upcoming cycle! (No use putting it off, we have been waiting to do this cycle for a year, and things won't get any better anytime soon! )
We also lost FIL the week before transfer, and in the early days of our IVF journey, DH was in a horrible lawsuit that he unfortunately lost (unfairly) and lost a lot of money in the process. It was such a difficult time, both times. But we made it through and you will too. I hope that this cycle will be successful for you (I have followed your story from the green board so I know how hard it has been to get this cycle lined up.) Wishing you all the best.
I'm sorry you are having to deal this with cycling
February 16 2012, 6:48 PM
Its so sad that your parents are sick but I fully understand you MUST move on with your plans as you have waited so long. I always believe that children are born to replace our loved ones who pass on. Good luck with your upcoming cycle (((()))))
all my positive thoughts headed your way... i'm so sorry you are dealing with all this. i guess the only advice is to compartmentalize. we had a death in our family the year of our wedding. and another one soon after our DS was born. the circle of life, as they say... but that doesn't make it any easier. i'm glad you aren't putting anything off. all my best to you and dh xo
I am so sorry you are going through all off this! My DH and I have been in the throws of lawsuits while ttc-ing so I can imagine the stress this is putting on you. BUt to have your parents ill at the same time is just amazingly hard. But I think you are wise not to put off your cycle. Just think of the joy it could bring you during a dark time.
I am sorry to hear that. I will keep your family members and you in my thoughts. I am glad that your cycle is almost here. Have you done any immune treatment? I filled the registration online and still waiting their answer back. I wonder do the treatments happen before cycling or while cycling?
I will be doing intralipids a certain number of days before transfer, and I am on metanx, a prescription folic acid, but the steroids and other stuff will be at a specific time in the cycle. I am not slated to start lupron until first week of March.
I wish you strength to deal with your parents' illnesses and to be there for them in every way that you are able. I also know with a lawsuit pending, finances are a concern...but I find in life there is no perfect time to do most things. We just step out in faith and follow those things in life that bring you peace.
I wish you peace to be able to breathe and take time to prepare your body and mind for your cycle.
I pray for you, your dh and the absolute best with this cycle. Can't wait to hear your story of success!
Praying that you stay steadfast and determined on your journey during this cycle, asking God to clear any seen and unseen obstacles, so this cycle will be tremendously successful. Asking God also to lead and guide you during this stressful time.
I'm so sorry about the terrible time you're having. I think it's good you're moving forward with the transfer. I agree with others who suggest getting a few minutes every day of deep breathing and peace and quiet. Maybe get your hands on a relaxation CD, even a short one, and listen to it every day. I mean this for YOU, not as a strategy for making the transfer successful, which can just add more stress if you have an ulterior motive for relaxing. hang in there!
You're right about the cycle though...this time is as good as any, even with all of the sadness in the situations with your parents. I'm so sorry sweetie. When I was pregnant with DD my mother in law was in a coma and we were planning her funeral, then she made this crazy recovery and is still with us 6 years later. But that was a very painful time. Hang in there, and you have lots of positive thoughts and prayers from my corner.