and the doctor ordered the NK cell Assay for $350 and he also suggested the DQ Alpha for both me and my DH for $230 each. Sorry I am so money focused but we have already spend about 50K over the past 3 yrs so money is tight and no baby reward yet.
I need to order the kit and go back to my maternal specialist and see if his nurse will draw my blood and then we have to overnight it to the lab in Chicago.
my friend also had HLA DQ alpha testing done there and matched her husband too closely according to them. Yet when she went on to do donor egg at GIVF, her first fresh non egg vitrified cycle led to success with her husband's sperm (they used part donor and part her husband but when it came time to transfer, the one that took was his.)
I not sure if you know my hx but DH and I have 2 OE children age 7 and 4. I asked the doc if we could really have a DQ Alpha issue w/ past success and he said yes as 1 out of 4 pregnancies are viable. DH and I had 5 OE m/c though the yrs so it would fit us that out of 7 OE pregnancies we had 2 succeed.
Anyways, I ordered the kits today and he will do the test after I work on him a little more. It is just a few hundred bucks and like other posters mentioned that after spending so much what is a few more hundred.
I'm all over the place italian, irish and other things. No german at all, my husband is 100% German. He would not go for blood work, he didn't believe it all. Well guess what we matched and we also did our test at SIRM. Tell him what I told my husband fact is if you don't do the test our antibodies can kill the baby in my body at any time. Can you live with that?
Well he is eating his words because SIRM gave us our son who is now almost 10 months old
It is so hard to believe that yall matched up and that maybe DH and I are a match w/ such different backgrounds. I ordered the testing kit yesterday and he will do the test after I work on him some more.
Thanks for your input and congrats on you new baby!!!
Tell him the potential cost of NOT doing this test are high
June 15 2012, 6:45 PM
I would tell him the following...why throw good money after bad? You've come this far, spent this much money, why would you not spend a few more hundred dollars to know for certain of this is an issue or not? Why spend thousands on a cycle that might very well be futile because he refused to do a test that he "thinks" is not worthwhile and you were not properly treated? Good luck.
We did all those tests after m/c. They never could explain...
June 16 2012, 1:24 PM
For the DQ alpha match, how does it apply when using DE? How can the theory be valid when the egg donor is never checked, only the recipient and genetic father? The egg donor is supplying half the genetic info. If the theory is that too close a match between the gestating mother and the genetic father can cause the gestating mother to reject the embryo, then the same type of embryo rejection would happen if the gestating mother and genetic "mother" were too close a match. There was no attempt to test the donor though.
They could not answer this, only to say they have not really looked into DE much for DQ match.