Hi,

I have a 3 years old austistic son. Same as any parent of austictic kids, I want to enter my son's world and introduce the regular world to him. I tried to follow him, watch him, interfere with him,... I still cannot know how yet. Any of you who may have any experiences, please give me your advices ? I would appreciate any, any advices !!!

Thanks again,
John N.

jOHN,
I CAN RELATE TO YOUR FRUSTRATION! MY SON CHRISTIAN IS 6 YEARS OLD AND WAS DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM AT 4 YEARS OF AGE. MYSELF BEING A VERY VERBAL AND COMMUNICATIVE PERSON, IT WAS HEARTBREAKING TO NOT KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON WITH HIM. i COULD NOT SEE ANY REASON TO "GO INTO" HIS WORLD, WHEN TO SURVIVE AND BE PRODUCTIVE SOMEDAY HE WAS GOING TO HAVE TO BE IN MY WORLD. I MAKE IT A POINT TO "DRAW HIM"INTO OUR WORLD BY SOME QUITE UNCONVENTIONAL MEANS! TICKELING! SINGING! BOUNCING! SWIMMING! GETTING A REACTION AND A FLASH OF EYE CONTACT IS ALL IT TAKES TO GET STARTED. rEMEMBER: HE IS A CHILD. BE CHILDLIKE...

I have an autic Brother named tommy he is 14 i LOVE
him Very Munch

I`m 11 years old.I have abrother that has autism. He`s four years old.I`m not at home so I cant ask if I can give out my email,and name.Iloveeee my brother soooooo much!!!!!!! He`s soooo cute. He talks really cute when he does!! Igot to go.

Hi Marcie,
I just read your posting, and it sounds like you have discovered naturally the program that I work in and am a firm believer of. Check out RDI- www.connectionscenter.com.
The program is based on Developmental Psychology and teaching children to read emotions and reference others for information. It has 28 stages, and guides you along the way.
Let me know if I can answer any questions.

I too, am interested in starting a RDI program for my five year old daughter. We are having trouble though finding certified people in Southern Orange County, California as well as getting insurance to cover it. Any ideas on what route to go to find someone> Should we look at OT or psychologists? How important is it to be certified?

Katie,
I am sorry, I don't usually check this board. In response to your question, it is extemely important to work with someone who is going through certification with the Connections Center, the founders of RDI. Some families start the program on their own, which is fine as long as you fully understand the research behind it. I would discourage you from using someone who simply bought the book and tries to implement it. If you go to www.connectionscenter.com you will find an enormous amount of information on RDI. RDI is based excusively on developmental research. It is the first therapy to directly implement the research that is being done in the field by the top developmental psychologists and to address the Core Deficits of Autism which include Social referencing,Emotion Sharing, and Flexible Thinking. Feel free to email me for more information.
dmsheridan@hotmail.com

Hi Katie,
I live in Southern Orange county. I just attened a two day RDI workshop. I have a 2 and half years old son. working with me. I will be more than happy to pass on the informations I have, email me mksrns_02@yahoo.com
Thanks.
Muthu

My son is 3 years old and was diagnosed with autism about a year and a half ago. We are currently taking him to a doctor that thinks that he has mercury poisining caused by the vaccines that the Doctors give. Well my point is that before we started him on this treatment he seemed to be more so in his own world but now we can see him coming out. The treatment is working!!!!!!! He will come to me when I call his name, He has alot more eye contact than before,He has always been very loving but now He will pucker for a kiss and will shake his head no to let me know that he doesn't like the song that I am singing, and just the other day he wanted a piece of candy and he saw his brother get some and throw the wrapper away so he went and got the wrapper out of the trash and brought it to me and shook it and I said "do you want some candy?" and he started smiling really big. So if you think that your child may benefit from this treatment e-mail me . The Best of Luck to and your family,

Diana Cornejo

Please tell me what you did to get started on treatment
my grandson is three and he was diagnosed about 6 months go. we are at our wits end plese help

Thank You

LINDA, YOU NEED TO GET YOUR GRANDSON STARTED IN A ABA PROGRAM. THIS IS A ONE TO ONE THERAPHY. THIS TREAMENT IS A 40 HOUR A WEEK AND WILL ALLOW PROFESSIONALS TO COME TO YOUR HOME AND TREAT YOUR GRANDSON. THE FEES ARE PAID BY THE STATE. LET ME KNOW WHERE YOU ARE LIVING AND I WILL TELL YOU WHERE TO GO. I WORK WITH AUTISTIC CHILDREN AND CURRENTLY WORKING ON MASTERS DEGREE IN ABA.

Does anyone know where I can find an undergraduate or graduate student in the field of psychology that would be interested in augmenting my 3 year old autistic son's current program? I live in So. California, in Orange County.

thanks

Hey there! I also live in Orange County and with the help of a nurse who i actually believe is an angel in disguise, I was told to contact the Regional Center of Orange County 714-796-5100. Tell them you belive your child has autism, you are not currently receiving treatment privatly and you need their assistance in order to receive the early intervention your child needs immediatly. They are pretty nice over there. If yoou run into any problems or have questions just email me. Remember you or your child will never feel alone again.

Hope I helped!

I LIVE IN ORANGE COUNTY
NEED INFO ON ABA

I read the message where you suggest the ABA program. I have been reading a lot about it, but I am still not sure if it could benefit my son who's already 15. He's been lost in the system for so long, and is presently going through a terrible regression, and I don't know who to ask for help anymore. I live in Anaheim CA.
Any information you could provide would help thanks!

Can you tell me what ABA is? I have a 12 year old who was diagnosed autistic at 2. We have been through everything managable and have had actually pretty good success but now she is in Junior high and academically its getting pretty tough. Im looking for more tools to use for this age group.

Thanks Linda

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hi, i'm teresa and i'm 13 and i have an autistic brother who's 12 years old. please can you give me more information on this aba program or any other programs that might help my brother? we live in dallas, texas. my parents and i are trying our hardest to help my brother but it doesn't seem to be helping we're doing this treatment called the LDA but i don't think it's working. please help me. my brother's so lonely and can't enjoy all of life's pleasure. we always pray for my brother to get better and we;ll pray for you. thanks

Hi teresa,
I have a 4 year old son. We have tried ABA, AIT which is Auditory Integration Training and diet which is basically avoiding milk and soy products. He has imporved tremendously. If you need futher information please send me an e-mail. I strongly believe on the diet. Oh! we also stopped giving him orange juice as well as any citrus fruits. We noticed the difference in three days!!! I know that it's not proven but doesn't hurt to try. We are now trying to start the RDI which is the Relationship Development Program. For your brother, this may be tried at a later stage. My suggestion is try the diet first. I know of an immunologist in New Jersy which I could give you. It's a research progrmme but a lot of people are going there and some have seen results. One thing that I forgot to mention is that my son takes Nystatin to treat the yeast candida that he developed from drinking cow mild and soy milk. Good luck.

elizabeth

ABA WORKS : I DO THIS TYPE OF THERAPY FOR A LIVING AND I HAVE SEEN THE BENEFITS; JUST GIVE IT SOME TIME TO SEEE THE RESULTS. IT DOESN'T WORK OVERNIGHT. NOTHING DOES WITH AUTISM UNFORTUNATELY YET, BUT IT DOES WORK. MAKE SURE THAT YOU GET QUALIFIED PROFESSIONALS IN THE FIELD WHO ARE ALWAYS WILLING TO WORK ON SOME OF THE GOALS THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN ACHIEVING FOR YOUR BROTHER AND STAY INVOLVED.

GOD BLESS YOU, AND IF I CAN BE OF ANY HELP PLEASE CONTACT ME AND i'LL TRY TO GET MORE INFORMATION REGARDING SERVICES IN YOUR AREA.



JOHN

What has he had done so far?

Is he on diet?
Was genetic testing done?
Did you guys try DMG or TMG?
Was food allergy testing, stool cultures, and urine done?
was he treated for intestinal yeast?
How about vit B supplements?
Has Chelation been considered?

With best regards for your brother

Hi, my name is Michele and I read your post and I felt I just had to respond. First, I want to applaud you (and your parents) for continually searching and of course praying for your brother. Here is just a thought... This is something I am pursuing for my 4 year old autistic son, Max. I am trying to get him an autism assistance dog. We are getting the dog through an organization called United States K9 Academy. These dogs are expensive and highly trained. The good news is that most of these organizations will guide you in fund-raising efforts, so the expense doesn't have to be a burden on the family. I suggest that you visit this organization's website and even view some others. The following are some of the organizations that I researched : 4 Paws for Ability, All Purpose Canines, Autism Service Dogs International, United States K9 Academy) You can even just type in autism service dogs or autism assistance dogs. Best wishes and God Bless! - Michele Perez

Joshua is nine and non-verbal. The only help we have obtained in Wichita, Kansas is the public school system where they attempt to corral him during the day.

We would love to find where he could get more one on one attention that we can afford.

Rome! My brother bryan is 3 years old he was diagnostic with autism a few months ago. He started to go to a special school he is not getting any better since then, adding the he doesnot have any therapy. My mother doesnot speack english so there is no way that she can help me. I need to help my brother, tell about the ABA please! I leave in LA CAlifornia please someone tell were to go because he deserves to be help!

go see scholl district and ask for aba therepahy. start off with ABA..
all the best

What is an ABA program and how readily available are they around the country. I live in Maryland and am the Aunt of an Autistic/PDD 4 going on 5 year old. I would like to learn as much as I can about ways to help her connect and communicate.
I have heard that an ABA program is great I just do not know what it is or how to find one....VIJ

aba stands for applied behavior analysis. IN short, it focuses on the analyis of behavior and it's relationship with the environment. It focuses on the work of well know psychologist B.F. Skinner. It is a form of psychology that focuses on scientific methods. Maryland has several programs. Contact your local school system for more information. They will may direct you to The Kennedy Kreiger Institute in Baltimore,or other similar programs. Also, your local school system (even if your child is not in school yet) can give you information about the autism waiver in Maryland (there is a waiting list, but it is never too early to apply)

my son was dx. with pdd. The developmental pediatrician informed us that he has 4 out of 12 trais of autistic behavior and he needs 6 to be labeled autistic .He just turn three and half today and has very limited vocabulary. We talk three langauges at home and I think having someone at home who teaches him English and ABA theray will be good for him .Any suggestions?
Thanks

Hello
I have a 14 years old child diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder . He cannot talk but can understand well. Do you come across anyone with this autism that can be treated i.e can talk again .

I don't know if this is relevant, but your best bet is to find out about ABA services in your area. You might be able to do this with Autism Society of America, asking your doctor or local hospital or developmental psychologists. Get him enrolled in some sort of program of 40 hours a week asap.

Working with someone with autism is often difficult and you need the right resources to assist you in doing this. I am not sure where you live, but I am in Indiana and work as a behavior consultant. I work for a company that gets reimbursed by the state for providing behavioral services for those with Autism, PDDs, and Mental Retardation. If your grandchild has medicaid/medicare, he/she should qualify for the services and there would not be any out of pocket expenses. Feel free to contact me if you would like more information.
Sincerely,
Amber

Diane:

Can you send my the information on what you are using.

Karen

Hi Diana;

I have a son who was been diagnois with autism, he is 5 years old and I been looking for families that have a child with autism so we can share information, on how to help our kids better. My English is not 100% good but I understand a lot. I am from Mexico. Please share any information even the doctor who you are seeing. Please write me back. Thanks

Hola Delia,

Te escribo en español para que entiendas mejor. Yo tambien tengo un niño de dos años y medio que tiene autismo. Mi hijo fue diagnosticado hace cuatro meses y ha progresado bastante. Ahora mismo a travez del programa Early Intervention Program el esta recibiendo terapia ocupacional y lenguage. Tambien esta assistiendo a una escuela especial para promober el lenguage. Recibe terapia extra en la casa y yo estoy aprendiendo a dar las terapias tambien. Si quieres que tu hijo progrese tienes que dedicarle mucho tiempo. Si quieres comunicarte conmigo puedes hacerlo. Perdona mi español no es muy bueno.

Jackie

u can just go to freetranslation.com and it will interpet english to spanish and vice versa

Please feel free to contact me. I can send you alot of information in Spanish.

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Hi. We have a 4 y.o. son, Alex, who is the joy of our lives!! On the spectrum, he was listed @ 35% autistic. How did you get mercury testing? I KNOW my son was changed after the vaccine! My pediatrician was a great doctor for our kids until the "autism" came into our lives. Now it's like he doesn't know anything. I need to find out what questions to ask and where to go for treatment. We live in Metro-Detroit. These kids CAN be helped lead normal lives! I'm in!!!

ericka-
i an aba therapist and i work with several families who are in the process of chelating their children (ridding the body of toxic metals). if you need any information on this process or to find out how to start and measure your child's mercury levels please let me know and i can either put you in contact with these parents directly or can direct your questions to them and get back to you. please email me directly - lapietrakelly@hotmail.com

hope i can help.

kelly

Please give my email address to anyone who can help us and also, here is our home phone number: 586-497-9847
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THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!

Kelly, do you know any contacts in Colorado for mercury poisioning testing? Thanks!!

I saw that you are an ABA therapist. I am very interested in achieving that can you help me get started ?
Holly

I too have a 4 yo son with Autism. He was given the official diagnosis just before his 3rd birthday. I am also from Michigan, and was wondering what resources you have found and which you find most productive in helping your son.

hi diane-
i actually saw your response to an inquiry about "entering a child's world" that has autism. you wrote of a process to get the mercury poisoning out of your son's body. were you referring to chelation? i am an aba therapist, working with children that have autism and some of them are currently involved in the chelation process and i was just curious about how your son is doing now, what you thought of the process- the plusses and the minuses, as well as if you had your son involved in any other therapy while enagaged in this process. if you could get back to me that would be much appreciated.
sincerely,
kelly lapietra

I AM CURRENTLY WORKING ON MY MASTERS DEGREE IN APPLIED BEHAVIOR ANALYSIS. MY GOAL IS TO TREAT AUTISTIC CHILDREN FROM THE AGE 2 TO 10. I LIKE TO KNOW WHAT TYPE OF TREATMENT IS YOUR SON GETTING. I DO ABA THERAPY TO THESE CHILDREN. YOU NEED TO SEE YOUR AUTISTIC CHILD AS A SMART AND VERY INTELLEGENT CHILD WHO IS NOT FULLY DEVELOPED AND NEEDS YOUR HELP FOR GUIDNESS. REMEMBER YOUR CHILD DOES NOT CHOOSE TO BE AUTISTIC. REPERATIVE THERAPY IS THE VERY BEST FOR YOUR CHILD. YOU NEED TO USE PECS FOR COMMUNICATION. PECS ARE PICTURE EXCHANGE COMMUNICATION SYSTEM. YOUR CHILD WILL MAND THRUGH PECS FOR ANYTHING HE DESIRES. PLEASE FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME ANYTIME. THANKS ROME

Iwould like to have more information about ABA . Please feel free to email me some info.I have a son with autism. THANks.

hi i'm teresa i'm 13 years old and i have a 12 year old brother who has autism. can you please give me more information on the treatment your giving your child? please, my parents work so hard at a cleaners and are always so busy yet they still have time for me and my brother. they pray and pray for my brother to get well and so do i. my brother's so lonely because he doesn't have any friends. please give me information. thanks

Hi Diana
My godson Eric was diagnosed with Autism at 18 months old. I would love to know what type of treatment you provided your son. I think that my godson would benefit and my bestfiend and I would be very greatful. She has placed him in an intensive program at the Walden School in Atlanta, but we are willing to try anything to help him.

Damarys

Hi Diana
I'm Sandra and my boyfriends niece is autistic and we have the same stories to tell about this kids, Marlen was diagnosed last february and for over a year i was asking mom to take her to the special ed, office to have her tested, well finally she did it and didn't like the results. But I think that I'm here for them.
I was teaching a NUrturing with Care classes for parents with children 0-5 and their older daughter went to pre-k with my daughter and that's how we met.
Marlen is a very happy and smart girl, now she is going to pre-k for a year already and has progressed a lot, but, there's a problem, mom and dad, hasn't had any instructional education in how to deal or live with autistic children and they are frustrated, because they are just dooing what their heart tells them, and they'ld like to do more and better.
Do you have any information that mom and dad could use? They're Spanish speakers only. " Marlen is bilingual ".
Please helpe me help these parents

Love, Sandra

Hi, I have a 3 and a half year old and he was just diagnoised in June but we have found that playing music that he likes helps. Because he then will sit with us or his teachers and play, color, or do just about anything with us.

John,
I have a 7 yr.old autistic boy. We have come a long way since his diagnosis when he was 2. To start, at his age, play is the best start.Get on the floor and follow his lead.I promise at some point he will look up at you. Since communicaton is one of the frustrating things to a autistic boy use pictures to put meaning to objects he likes. As he becomes familiar with them use those pictures to gain a little more control. If he wants it bad enough he will seek you out to get them. You will start to use First/Then with him. Ex: First you pick up the toys , Then you can have ice cream. As he gets to school age you will find that this will be the focus of his learning. Use very little words. Processing takes a long time, so don't give him too many words at a time. Good Luck!

Hi! Please don't get frustrated with your child. Understand that your child's brain is NOT wired like that of a typical child. Believe me, your child is in that body somewhere. Take time to focus on the things your child is interested in. About 2 years ago, all my son wanted to do was line up magnets on our refrigerator. So, I went to the toy store and bought magnetic ABC's and numbers. He enjoyed the colors and different letters/numbers. It gave me a chance to teach him a skill from the academic world without invading his world. Remember, it's not about making him "normal". Whatever amount of time your child is able to be part of the "outside" world, take it and run with it. It's hard to see our children like this. But, it's harder when they feel as if we are not accepting of who they are. Hang in there!!

I am a mother of 4 children 2 presenting with classical autism, I my self have Aspergers syndrome and there for have a very good insight into the autistic world. Check out my web site than feel free to contact me for any further information you may require. It is possible to understand your son's world and for him to understand yours.

I am a speech language pathologist working with very young autistic children, I use the Dr. Stanley Greenspan approach to working with my kids. His book is called Children with Special Needs. The first thing you could do is to get joint attention on an object - try blowing bubbles; he/she will love it. he will look at you. or, whatever interests him, join in. make him interact with you. he is probably very sensitive with his senses so be careful not to overwhelm him; one thing at a time; not sentences; just single words; i.e. in, eat; bye bye. help you, etc. good luck to you.

Hi John,

By now you should have an idea of how to enter your son's world. You cann't go into his world, you have to take him out of it. By this I mean, you have to be with him 24-7 keeping him busy, taking him to fun places, doing lots of activities that one-to one. I have a 2 1/2 year old who was diagnosed with autism last september. at the time, he was in his own world, very active, yet he had no eye contact, could not waive bye-bye and all. After just a few months of therary, and intervention, my son now waives bye-bye, turns to his name, plays hide and seek with his freinds, enjoys people's games and much more. He still has a long way to go, butwe keep trying. Good luck!

John, Our son Garrett is 3 1/2 year old. He was diagnoised with PDD/NOS at eighteen months---very lucky for us because the sooner you start early intervention the better! Garrett is a VERY visual learner. He adores videos---while some may say this lets him go into his own world, I say SO WHAT! I believe there are times we must let autistic children have times we just let them be autistic. I went to a Temple Grandin speaking engagement (I highly reccomend!) and she commented on this too. Our son has learned so many things from videos. He loves the standard Blue's Clues, Sesame Street, etc.---educationally he has gotten the most out of the Baby Bumble Bee video series. The format is a flashcard type of learning--the word is on the screen while classic music plays in the background.A number of different examples of whatever the word,verb or numerarcy is then shown. It helps with generalizing, spelling, reading and just plain understanding because of the examples shown. Check out ebay---the seller twohipmomma has great prices. I cannot reccomend them highly enough. It took several tries before he really paid attention to them---but then he was hooked!Best of luck to you and your family! Remember, there is a silver lining to every cloud! God Bless---cindy

Hi John. What great posts you are getting. We entered our son's world and are bringing him into ours by doing a home program using the Son-rise method. It has been very effective for us . To learn more contact them at www.son-rise.org. Good luck!

Colleen

Please look into The Options Institute in Berkshire, Mass. founded by Barry Kauffman, father of a college-educated son who is autistic. Their approach is similiar to the Floortime model advocated by Stanley Greenspan of Washington DC. Also, look into potential auditory processing disorders. This can be done at a Tomatis listening center such as The Spectrun Center in Bethesda, MD, run by Valerie DeJean. You will probably find the best approach to be holistic, incorperating Occupational Therapy as well. Good luck and you are on the right track!

Hello John,
Just thought I'd take a minute to respond to your question, but first I have a question, is your son verbal at all? If he is not begin responding to grunts, groans, screams, or any verbalization to approximate speech. I began by cutting m&m's in quarters, yes quarters, and would roll the ball across the floor and say "ball" and if he said anything and rolled it back, he got the treat. Sessions were short, but he soon began to develop a vocabulary that only I could understand. As he practiced more, more of the people around him could understand him. To make a long story shorter, he now has a great vocabulary for an autistic, but is difficult to understand, but he can make himself understood and wants to.

Hi Jhon,
I'm a mother of two autistic boys 2 1/2 and 3 1/2 years old.
Last year on February my husband and I got the news that our oldest son was autistic and soon after that our youngest boy was also diagnosed.
The oldest one diagnosed as severely autistic. As you can imagine we were devastated. But soon after my devastation(2 months exactly) I thought to my self that they couldn't afford my grief! So I got on mi knees and follow my boys around every way they went and turn, and only stoped to eat, (sometimes). I didn't know what was going to happen but for sure I knew that I was NOT going to sit around and watch how my two precious boys were being eaten by autism in front of my eyes. So I didn't stoped from turning their faces, hugging them,playing music,claping for them (hand over hand),taking to them try to make them look at me. Most of the time with no response. I was very lucky to have my husbands support and he did the same when coming from work. Also very lucky on finding another mother that told me about the good changes after removing the milk of his autistic son. Even though I was first "not a beliver" I decided to try anything to help my boys. I didn't have anything to loose anyway. What else could I possibly loose?
So I went ahead and started with the diet. First the milk, then the Gluten, and never stopped being in front of my kids faces. I got posters (colors, shapes anything!) We started an ABA program in July 2002
My oldest son responded great to the removal of milk
products. after just 10 days of doing it,(before ABA) he actually turn his head to what I was pointing!!
My youngest son I couldn't tell. But my husband and I belive that the diet is still a benefit for him too.
Today my two boys are using 2-5 word sentences and are very enthusiastic. Their ABA program thinks my oldest boy is doing great, and the youngest will probably wont stay too long with them.
I know we have a long way to go, but for sure I will do anything on my power to help them out. As long as it takes. I'm the only sure help they have. And I'll never quit!
I wil say: Try everything, Do everything, Enter your child's world any way you can.
Sincerely, Rosa

John, go to the web site Gentleteaching.com. People with autism have very different perceptions of the world. It is hard for them to tolerate a lot of sensory stimulation, but do desire touch, and relationships. It must be done very slowly and gently. Also read the book by Donna Williams, Nobody Nowhere, a woman with autism who is very eloquent about what it is like. Build on their interests and strengths. Punishment and negative consequences make matters worse. Hang in ther!

I will be presenting on helping families with children with Autism at the Gentle Teaching International Conference in Winnipeg starting August 27, 2003. I would be interested to hear what is helpful for you.

Dennis

Like everyone else in our situation, i understand how you feel. My 2 year old was diagnosed at 20 months. I spent many sleepless nights trying to think of any way to snap my son out of the trance he seemed to be in. I cried over the thought of him never experiencing "normal" childhood of discovery and play the way my 4 year old had. I cried that he so rarely looked at me and wondered if he even knew who I was. But my greatest sorrow was wondering if he would ever realize and understand how much I love him. But you see, these are all selfish feelings. Saddness over things I thought to be true. Self pity.I truely belive Autistic children are the happiest children you will ever meet. They see the truely beautiful things around us. My son is receiving at-home behavioral therapy 5 days a week. Granted sacrifices must be made, but they are very worth it. However, the most important thing you must remember is to give it time. Have patience. You will not see dramatic changes but this treatment is the most effective overall.Dont pull your child into our world, focus on ways to enter his. Watch your child, they always communicate in their own ways. Learn to read the subtle signs. Your child must first feel that you fully understand his needs and desires his way before he'll allow you to show him yours. And oce this small bumb is passed everything else will follow. I no longer cry from sadness. My son has made much progress. Most people might not recognize it but to us theyare nothing short of miracles. The only time I cry now is when in the middle of my son doing his thing, he'll stop,take my face in his hands, puts his little nose to mine and loudly yells out the most beautiful jibberish you'll ever hear. Then just as qickly lets go and continues on his way. And through the tears of joy I mange to reply "I love you too, Carlos."

Hope I helped!

Don't be afraid to be silly. We've played alot of nonsense games before My nephew and I started working on other things. We played alot of word and signing games on the trampoline, that I just made up. We sang silly songs, tickling games, stinky feet (lol)...We bonded through our games. Then we started working on communication, toilet training and other things. All though we did alot of work, we also did alot of playing and I tried to keep a balance between the two. I believe we've developed a special bond and trust. Maybe I am just a kid at heart, but I connected with him and in a way that he has not connected with others. Although I am not a doctor or a specialist, my advice is to be silly, don't be afraid to be a kid again. He'll respond

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Hi ,
I am an educator of Autistic children in northern new york and I would love to help you with any advice you may need.
Please email me with any specific questions you may have, for example, eye contact, play etc.

Good luck with everything,
Marcie

john,

buy a book called unraving the mystery of autism and pdd " by karen serosi

john,

buy a book called unraving the mystery of autism and pdd " by karen serosi

I have read a lot about trying to take interest in your child's activities and doing "floor time", but had not really figured out how to get in there. Last week I read about "joining" his self-stimulating behavior and I tried it at the playground. My three year old is obsessed with rocks and although he'll play on the play ground in a typical way for a while he invariably goes to the rocks, drizzling them in front of his eyes or sending them down the slide. He'll send rocks down the slide for what seems like hours. Last week I gathered a bunch of rocks myself and started doing the exact thing he did. He noticed that I was doing it too and seemed pleased. I got his attention and started handing him the rocks - I held my palm flat and he scooped them off my hand. Once he got that I changed it and got him to hold his hand flat and I put the rocks in. Suddenly we were doing this as a team and it was awesome! For a short time it opened up his whole world and he really seemed thrilled to have me in it. My son spends a lot of time just running around the house, sometimes humming. I haven't figured out yet how to get in there but I'm working on it.

just believe and hope
share each moments with him - turn back to your childhood no matter what the others will think about two of you
don't be afraid
if you believe in your power once then you will see all the secrets of the secrets
do not forget in this world
everybody has a problem if you look at carefully you will see yours is not so bad
do not give up
just show your loving to YOUR CHILD BECAUSE HE IS A GIFT FROM GOD.
ZUHAL

like your story I HAVE AN AUTISTIC BOY(CHILD ) TOO AND WITH MY GREAT HELP
HE ENTERED TO OUR WORLD
THE KEY IS '' LOVE ''
A MSG FROM ISTANBUL
GOOD LUCK IN THIS WONDERFUL JOURNEY !

get to learn his 'language' and his world first, then when you understand how he operates, you can invite him into your world if he is able- using terms that he will respond to.
i recommend getting in touch with donna williams. have a look at her site.
http://www.donnawilliams.net
she was profoundly autistic in childhood, didnt speak until she was about nine.
is now the author of 9 books.
she got me where i am today..
all the best :O)

To get into my son's world (and get him into ours) has been hard to find ways - but then we looked at simple things. Our son is 3 and was just diagnosed in December with Autism.
Here are some things that have worked A LOT for us.. Hope they help...

- Austin lines up cars/trucks constantly and has an obsession with tunnels/bridges. So, to get him to play with things in a "normal" way..we get him to build a tunnel with his blocks (while I prompt him to say sign language for "more blocks" and different colors of blocks). This enables him to learn ASL, turn taking, and playing with blocks properly. Then, once the tunnel is finished he is rewarded with something he likes (goldfish/cheesies etc) and I give him a bucket full of cars (he then lines them up through the tunnel). I find this effective. He has accomplished many things - was rewarded for it - and gets to go back to his world after such hard work.

I do this with EVERYTHING. I started this over 3 weeks ago. Then, he knew only 2 signs (he is up to 50 now)which has helped with his aggression too.

If you want any more tips on teaching sign, or how to lessen the agression (if your son gets aggressive) i've got some good tips using pictures.

Good luck
Ginger

I have 2 year old twins boys. We just found out that one my be Autstic. I really don't know to much about this I have been reading about this milk diet and I saw what you wrote and would like to know if you could send me info on sign langue. The dr. that have been working with tought him to say more in sign and it took like 3 min and he has used it after that when he wants something. I dont know how to sign so if you could help that would be great. Thanks Amber

Play is supposed to be fun! There is no right way to play with blocks! Go ahead and play more normally with blocks with him if he likes it, but remember that the best way to play is the way that makes you happiest. I'm mildly autistic and for me, dangling shiny things in front of my face is really fun! I've seen people write that autistic kids "don't know how to play". It's type A personalities who don't know how to play. Autistics just play differently.

Hi Ginger,
My son is 2 and half years old, non verbal, can you tell me more about how I can communciate with him with sign language. Also, you mentioned about reducing aggressive behavior. I appreciate your input
Thank you

Muthu

I have worked with PDD kids where their world is exclusive. It really depends on the kid. Feel free to call and refer to this message and I will spend an hour on the phone with you.
Rob Bernstein (914) 478-4868. (www.autismspeech.com.)

John. I do this every day. But it is not enterring his world as much as connecting with his world. When you connect witgh his world, he connects with you.
Rob Bernstein (www.autismspeech.com.)(914) 478-4868

Dear,John
I have a 2 year son and he was just digosed with autism in january and he is currenty going to starlight school for therapy i would like to know what my son thinks about in his mind.He has no tolerance of pain he can get hurt and cry for about 20 min.He flaps his hands like a bird screaches and crys when someone leaves it is hard for me and my husband eveyday we have to watch him all the time it is very hard to tell what he is going to do next.Hopefully this will help you and please respond to me and let me know how things are going my son is a very enernactive and is in to everthing. Thank You about the title
Melissa Conklin

My son is now 8, I was told he was autistic at the age of three. I have been through hell and back, him destroying things, breaking glass just for the fun of it, running away, and the anger. I would get angry back, I would try everything, I finally got some help, some of it great, some of not so good. I has no other choice but the medication route for the aggression, but it has helped. He finally lets me play in his world, he has a great imagination and I go right along with it. He has favorites, like garbage trucks, so I let him put the garbage out.....he likes to run his trucks in the dirt, so I let him, I listen to the babble and pretend I understand every word, he keeps on babbiling. Some words I actually do unterstand, just take your time, play with the lightswitches with him, if he starts running away.. please get locks ASAP, super ones, not little dinky ones. Go out in play in the dirt with him, show him one thing at a time and tell him what it is, try to get a respnse, dont push it till he gets fustrated though. I love my sons world especially when I can go with him and escape the real world, I just with he could experience the real world soon. Trains are another good thing, let him explore them. Good luck

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