have you tried to tell your good friend about this?
I'm sure if she knew, she would understand and try as much as possible to get ahold of you personally as possible.
I'm not sure if you are talking about your t since I know you have a special relationship with her and if this is true, you might start with affirmations like...this woman is NOT my mother...I am grownup and can handle messages from displeasing people....they are not pleasant, but I am and I can do this
Just some suggestions...I have no idea if they'll help or not.
good luck Elise!
riley...