It stinks when you stick up for your boundaries and then are made the"bad" guy.
This I know from personal experience. I kept trying to decide if I was the wrong one or what. I knew I wasn't and finally had to leave the situations because I respected others boundaries while mine were being ignored or disrespected.
You're not wrong to set boundaries to keep yourself safe and sane. No matter what, remember that it was a healthy move and pat yourself on the back for being good enough to yourself for doing it.
Now comes the aftermath...don't blame yourself. Don't blame period. It's not a blame thing, just a boundary setting that was not respected and some people can't do that as maybe at one time you couldn't either.
Hang in there...I'm still waiting for things to be the same old way, and I do realize it's not possible right now. I did a healthy thing by leaving. I am healthier. Keep telling yourself that. Even if you have to bite your tongue and not say it to others.
And, I think it's important also to remember that the other co-workers see it their own way and it isn't going to be the same as you. That is their thing...not yours. good luck here....good for you also!
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