some mothers are good at that. and if you choose not to be her servant well then your the selfish one. i have a mother just like that. except for my mother will turn everyone against me and make me look like the sorry dog. pretty soon i'm getting calls from my brother and aunts telling me i should be ashamed. you stand your ground. i don't think you would be doing her any good waiting on her hand and foot. she will probably put you on a guilt trip but stand your ground. how come it is when we decide to stand up for ourselves and not be door matts anymore we are bitches? well i say, "POWER TO THE BITCHES". Good luck in your decision and many blessings to you.