if your like myself i have been a door matt for my mother. i have always been the one whom she cuts down and belittles. in some strange way do you feel like your mother gets off on making you feel small? almost like making you feel bad makes her feel better about herself? i mean...i don't know what my mother is going to do without me to belittle. i recently had to severe the ties with my mom. i just couldn't handle it anymore. i seen her contempt for me and i just got to the point to where i thought, "why does this woman call me when it is clear in how she talks to me that she hates me"? so i had to cut her loose. i really got tired of feeling like shit and let me tell you, if anyone can make me feel like shit she can. she has turned my brother against me now and probably my aunts and grandmother and i really hate that, but what can i do. you know, it sounds like my mother and yours grew up in the same time. my mother is very materialistic and she judges people by the job or the house they live in. i hate that about her too. she is just a regular Cruella Deville. well, i'm glad i got to respond to you and thank you for letting me blow off some steam. i hate what your mother is putting you through, but it is comforting to know that i'm not the only one... blessings to you and yours.