yes, it sounds like we do have the same mother. and my 13 year old daughter would get so mad at her for how she would treat me. i guess that is why i finally decided to cut her loose. what really set the final fuse is that...well, everytime we would talk on the phone she would cut me off in mid sentence and say, "oh corey (my brother) is fixin to leave for work i'll call you back". which she never called back. or maybe the dog was barking. she done this to me all the time. i mean i could be spilling my cuts about something and she would do this. you know, not to mention my brother is 22 years old. one day she done this and my daughter says to me, "mother, why do you put up with her". that day was the last time...it just wasn't her day. you know, i know that i am a good mother and all, but sometimes i see my mother in myself and i have to fight it. sometimes i look in the mirror and i see her. I JUST WANT TO SCREAM NOOOOOOO!!! anyways, i am glad you and i have something in common. it helps me to know that i can vent to someone who knows.