Yes, I agree that actively holding on to hate takes a tremendous amount of energy, but I'm
sure you as a counselor know that letting it go is not generally all that easy. I offer this
board as a place for survivors to express their anger and hatred as they struggle to
process and work through those feelings. I hope that eventually each person here WILL be
able to let go of that anger, but until they are able, the ability to express in a healthy
rather than destructive way , rather than holding it bottled up inside, can be very healing.
What I heard ruth saing was not that she was offering to kill anyone, but rather that she
was feeling like killing and chose to do otherwise. She made a healthy choice and spoke
about her feelings rather than act on them. I do appreciate your input, but as I'm sure you
know, having a rapport with the survivor you are trying to assist will make a big difference
in how they perceive your input. I would love for you to spend some time here and offer
your insight, but I do ask that you consider the importance of rapport and the PROCESS of
healing rather than just suggesting the end goal.