I thought you were saying you had found a good T there? I odn't understand what you meant by stopping slunch and being resposible....
As for hair, I am going through the same trauma. I went to get it cut after having problems for a year and finally getting the style I wanted and the girl cut it WAY TOO SHORT. And there is nothing butch about me, so I am hiding a lot lately. Have to wait a couple months before I can even get it shaped again. Maybe I should just dye it purple and get it over with!