Well, first I think it is good that he told you that he can only be your pastor. I am wondering what you mean, though, when you say he was with this woman? what were they doing? Also, is there any other reason you think he might be messing with your mind? I do know one thing...it is important to trust your intuition, and if you have a bad feeling about it, there could be a reason for your bad feeling. Some pastors are very honest and upstanding citizens....others are very deceptive and do do things that hurt people. I certainly would not ever want you to get hurt by him, so please be careful as you try to figure this out.