Hi, my name is Whitney and this is the first time I have posted anything on here, but I just keep thinking to myself why can't I get over my past? My father was an alcohlic and so was my mother. My mother is recovered and my dad is in the process of recovering and I always think back of how bad my life use to be. And I just can't get over it even though it is way in the past. But my father has never come to the terms that he has hurt me and that he and I will never be the same again after all this has happened. But why can't I just be the bigger person and forgive him? Why can't I even just forget about all the things he has done and be over with it?