I'm so sorry for your loss. Here is a link to a blog by two men who went to India for surrogacy. If you go to the beginning, you can read their story. It's kind of looooonnnnggg and their sense of humor can be off-putting. But on the right side of the top page there are links to a lot of other blogs of people who have done it, straight and gay. I know TH had a horrible, horrible experience, but others have done it. Just be really careful.
Huge hugs to you.