It's now been 14 years, but every birthday is still the hardest thing to go through and I still cry when I think of her (which is about every minute of every day). See Marlena was only 1/2 way of "cooking", when she decided to make her presents known. There was nothing anyone could have done to make her wait a little while longer. But she brought happiness and sadness to our hearts that day and 6 months later when I found out I was pregnant again. No one can ever take her place, but she helped my body. See I have an incompitant cervix. I did not know and neither did my doctor. But she did and helped us figure it out.
The best thing that helped my after we lost Marlena was to talk, talk and more talk. Thank God for mom's too. Mine was there for me to talk. If not get help, but DO NOT do it alone. That is the hardest thing anyone can do.