Some of anyone's persona will be shaped by their environment. Being bright and frustrated, or bright and feeling let down on a promise is a root of anger and can incite extraordinary reactions.
If we allow people to excuse unacceptable behavior because of their past and wounds they've suffered, we can all be unaccountable. Sorry, I don't buy that one.
I can tell you my sob story, if you like. You may think you've seen the skeletons in my closet, but I've got more in there you haven't seen than the ones I've pulled out so far to parade around. I'm sure you have your own, too, and no I don't care to get into any sort of pissing contest whatsoever regarding it.
I don't talk about my skeletons except where they are useful to illustrate a particular point. That's because they don't matter, none of it matters. "Understanding" what may lead people to darkness should never be confused with excusing them for going there. We all still have free will.
I reject out of hand the notion that "chemical imbalances" are a compelling force, and that "mental illness" is wholly a physical phenomenon. I don't deny that chemical imbalances in the system exist; what I reject is the notion that they override free will. If you get drunk, yes, your motor skills and dexterity are impaired, and in a certain limited sense "you can't help it", but that's in terms of controlling your muscles. Inhibitions lowered? Sure. All sorts of weird perceptions flying through your brain, induced by hallucinogenic substances? Absolutely that happens, the brain is clearly part of the function of the body, and without a healthy brain, function will be impaired. However, IS the free will truly free? Or is it just an effect of the brain?
Doctors understand more about biology than I do, but that doesn't mean they have grasped the full measure of the human being. Sociologists have figured out a lot of things, too. If you've ever been to doctors who did not have cures or even diagnoses for your ills or those of someone close to you, or if you have ever been up close with counselors, psychologist, clergy, or any other authority on human behavior, you know they all have limits, too, and much more so than they would have you believe. There's a whole culture that believes and wants to believe that people really are just puppets, that we're sick little puppies even, that we can be cured of our flaws or foibles, that we can be "fixed" by a pill, a process, or a prayer. It ain't so.
Being bright and frustrated, or bright and feeling let down on a promise is a root of anger and can incite extraordinary reactions.
No. What incites extraordinary reactions is choice. Choice. People choose to attack. They don't have to do so. They certainly don't have to make it a lifestyle.
Spiderdrake's treatment of me was his choice. Nothing to do with bright (I might argue the contrary) or feeling let down. It was pride, pure pride.
Can we not have compassion for someone and still hold them accountable for their choices? I think we can, but as a culture we do not. We are so far gone over into the idea of excuses and passing the buck and the blame game that I might even be able to pull a Carlin here and dig up forty or fifty euphemisms for it.
I don't know how far you're going with that thought, Occhi. You didn't go all the way, but even moving in that direction gets my hackles up. The forces who are bent on persuading us that we're powerless, and in their hands -- be they medical, psychological, religious, or social -- are no friends of mine.
I've been bright and frustrated in school, bright and let down by broken promises. I've been in harsh environments and dealt with hardships I don't care to enumerate because they don't matter. Spiderdrake's hardships don't matter either. He's responsible for his own behavior.
For that matter, I don't like the "Yne" label. The ones who have developed whining to a fine art came along well before the current 20-something generation, so let's not go nuts with mocking "Generation Y" with a slur that doesn't fit them. People of my age and those younger are much more savvy in regard to Madison Avenue and the institutional shoveling of bullshit in our country. Our elders have gone so far over into euphemisms and doublespeak that we've simply tuned you out.
Spiderdrake isn't representative at all of my experience with his age group. His bitterness is not a generational thing, nor is it an effect of his environment. It's a personal choice. Can we agree on that much?