Hey, all.

Okay, this is driving me crazy, and it's not YH related. It's not even Ryan, Dean, or Chris related, but I just need some input and help from you guys. Aside that, my friends, here, aren't helping me much, so I really have no other place to ask for help!

Okay.........so, I like this guy. I met him in my acting class, he's an AMAZING actor and he wants to write and make movies someday. He's also on the Basketball team here. He's a real gentleman! He opens doors for me, he waits with me, and completely finishes conversations with me before leaving to go elsewhere. He lives close (one town over, amazingly!) we're both the same politcal party and have the same beliefs and we've both never been in a relationship before. (Not even dates! Both of us! How pathetic, right?) And I really like him! I've liked him since our fall semester because we would eat breakfast together all the time after our acting class and at the beginning of Spring, he asked me to be in a TV show he was doing. In fact, he asked ME in front of another one of my theater friends! Since then, those plans have fallen through, but I always find him in a crowd, or try to be where he is...and it's really pathetic! I've never liked anyone like this, either. It's the weak in the knees, dizzy, I-feel-sick around you sort of thing. And I wanted to tell him so many times (I sent an anonymous "I have a crush on you" card, but I didn't have the guts to go through with the other ones! I tried writing a letter, but decided not to send it because it was kinda creepy.) But now, it's the end of the year! I want to tell him, but I'm still waaaay too shy....so I'm going to try to send him an e-mail, telling him everything.

Input? Should I tell him I sent that card last winter? Should I not e-mail him? It's really driving me crazy and I KNOW I can't tell him to my face.

HELP! PLEASE!

~Alayia~

Just go tell him face to face with no one else around. Trust me - guys like what you describe don't go blab to their friends that some weird chick just asked them out. In fact, I'm willing to bet he's waiting for you to make the first move because he's shy. But one of you has to make it and hey, might as well try. The absolute worse that can happen is he says no and classes are a bit awkward for a while. The best thing is tonight you're not on YHU and you go see a movie or something. Go talk to him! It's not as bad as you think. If you're really lucky, you can get dinner out of this as well. Or coffee. Either is fine.

Let me know what happens.

Celest

I agree with Celest. Ask him to go to a movie or something, and maybe get there early so you guys can talk and stuff. Maybe tell him after the movie? Letters are just a bit... I don't know. Use one as a last resort if you must. Or maybe add him to your buddy list on any instant messenger and talk on there some more. I find I can tell things to people more easily over the Internet :p

Gorax, what messenger are you on?

That sounds so much like a situation I was in a couple years ago. Pet me pull a few facts from your description.

- He opens doors for you.
- He finishes conversations with you.
- You ate breakfast together all the time.
- He asked you to be in his show.

Sweetie, unless he's gay, he's sending you signals loud and clear. I agree with Celest, the boy sounds shy. A couple years ago I was in a similar situation with a guy (except it was chess club, not theater ^_~ and we were meeting once a week to play chess) and one day in May I asked him out to see a movie. He said yes, and we went, and it was fine. We still met once a week, and then one day in February we were talking on IM, and totally out of nowhere he told me he loved me. And so we started dating.

Here's what you do - you find out what movie is playing that you want to see that you don't think he'd mind seeing. Don't blurt out that you love him or have a huge crush on him, because if you're reading this wrong it'll get awkward, and if he's the really really shy type you might scare him. Just bring up in a conversation that there's this movie that you really want to see but that you don't like seeing movies alone, and then ask if he might want to see it too. That way it can be a movie between friends if he doesn't feel the same, and he can feel like he's doing you a favor since you don't like to see movies alone ^_~. Be prepared to pay your own way, but if he's the kind of gent who opens doors, odds are he might pay for your ticket too, in which case just smile and thank him. And that's the first step ^_~ Then you have sharing from the same bucket of popcorn and hand-holding as you stroll out of the theater ^_~

If I were you, I wouldn't tell him you have a crush on him, I'd just ask him out and see how it goes. It's the twentieth century, we gals can make the first move ^_~ and, after all, your guy might be similar to my guy, who waited nine months after I made the first move to make a move of his own, and woah, was it a doozey of a move.

Gorax - of course it's easier to talk to somebody over the internet - you don't have to see their face or hear their voice. but it's a hell of a lot less personal. Bombshells of the "I love you" variety shouldn't be dropped over the internet, or any technology.

you're gonna get a de-ja-vu, but i also agree with celest also. he sounds really sweet (although i hate it when people open the door for me unless i have my arms full... people at work just do it to annoy me). aww, cute!