anyone else worry about...

possibly being oversensitized to the issue of abuse, to the point of perhaps seeing clients through that lens? i think there is some truth to the caution that we see what we look for, and sometimes i wonder if i am at risk for missing important issues for my clients because i am predisposed to see issues that are closer to my own. i know there is a huge debate about false memory out there, but that is not all of what i am talking about, i don't think. i am talking about perhaps not giving the proper weight to events and issues, because some things are more salient in my own life....does this make sense to anyone? what if a client has a history of abuse, but this is truly secondary to other issues he or she is facing...would i recognize that? or am i at risk for missing things i'm not aware of?
i think for me this question dovetails with the discussion about disclosure that is already on the boards. in general, i haven't really felt the need or seen the use of disclosing my own history in the workplace....EXCEPT with my supervisor. I have been really lucky to have a longterm supervisor who knows, and who has been invaluable for helping sort out in supervision what issues are my own and what to do about them. the truth is that my instincts have generally proven to be okay in practice, but there is still a strong emotional need even just to have her there, to confirm what i usually do seem to know.
I guess i wonder sometimes how much i need that externally derived reassurance and clarity....and worry a little what i would be at risk for missing without her, despite an understanding of ethics and a sincere motivation to practice with strong ones.
wondering if this sounds familiar to anyone?