Thank you, Cetta. We do have a lot in common, just surviving the 70's seems like an accomplishment for me. I had the good fortune to be a part of the Esalen movement of the 60's that introduced me to the "Be Here Now" psychologies -- learning to be present and no going backword...except for reference points and for identifying patterns of conditioning. Learning to stay present and in the moment while attempting to stop all of the chatter in my mind was not a part of my professional education. Nor, did I even recognize or appreciate my fear, prejudice, ignorance, jealousy and stress, until I was introduced to meditation, massage, and 'new age' technologies.
You asked if I am a survivor of trauma--perhaps not by some definitions, but I was very trapped in my beliefs and not very balanced. These passions can be very over-whelming, as we know, and can often anesthetize us into believing we are happy and fulfilling ourselves. After all, every day and many times throughout the day, we are asked: How are you? Now, most of the time, I can say, I feel great, healthy, wonderful, and happy.
Anyway, I always hated people pinching my cheeks as a child, but remember most physical touch was reserved in my family--my parents were part of the Puritan tradition. Physical punishment was used as discipline in our home that precipitated great fear for many years, of my father and resentment of mother for allowing it to happen. I believe that this fear also affected my learning and relationships. I'm glad that I had the desire, courage, and willpower to transend my negative child. I'm also especially grateful for the 'new age' therapists, teachers, trainers, and programs that gave me the tools to transform into a healthy human being.
Touch is a very sensitive issue in our society and should only be used with permission. Also, I recommend that client's receive a list of guidelines for the use of safe, skillful, and appropriate touch so that the therapist is also protected. For example, if some touch interventions are used, it is good to have a witness available. I introduce touch to soldiers and their wives so that they can experience the difference between loving, healthy touch and abuse.
Again, thank you for your thoughtful response. Hope you don't mind the personal information.
Jerry
http://www.nmsu.edu/~socwork/jerry.html