These are wise words... thanks for sharing them Jerry. Talking about intimacy I wonder what the Dalai Lama would make of our construct of codependence??? Our need for intimacy is a given in what he writes. My understanding is that our western societies' staunch individualism is quite "foreign" to eastern concepts of mutual interdependence.
I have been re-reading Anne Wilson Schaef's book "Beyond Therapy Beyond Science" ... do you know it ? She is a radical thinker and I identify closely with her struggles to reach an understanding of the healing process which is contrary to her training in traditional "scientific" psychology, and her own experience of the psychotherapeutic jungle. I think she is profoundly right that the scientific paradigm which psychology has attempted to adhere to (for perceived power, prestige, legitimacy in a yang-dominant culture) has always been hopelessly inappropriate to facilitate or even allow for genuine healing. If we believe that there can be no true healing without emotional healing, how can traditional psychology ever facilitate healing via the scientific paradigm which cannot accomodate the reality of emotional process... (and yet even quantum physics through chaos theory has moved beyond the linear-causality reductionist science to which psychology still clings) I am probably not paraphrasing her very well, but am very into the book as it suddenly has a lot of personal relevance to where I am at.
The author loses me though when she goes on to propose a model for healing (individual and planetary) which she see as consistent with the reality of emotional process but which is free of what she sees as codependence / relationship addiction (including all 1:1 psychotherapy relationships). Yet from my own experiences as a client of some very wounded therapists, part of me fears she may be right in this too. I would love to know what others felt / thought about her book. Oh yes and I have come full circle here ... I would love to know what the Dalai Lama would make of this all....
Elysha
"No rain ~ no rainbows!"
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