This is exactly why I think it makes a difference to post your screen name vs. anonymously, because when you see who authored the post you can have an understanding of what may be driving them to their feelings.
I still stand by what I posted. http://www.network54.com/Forum/634662/message/1326936913/I+think+it%27s+a+normal+reaction
And I completely understand the feelings of Teresa and NancyMN and whomever is new and feeling targeted. I remember feeling almost embarassed to post that very first time.
I think it's like what Rebekah said http://www.network54.com/Forum/634662/message/1328101189/I+think+it%27s+a+case+of
Except that for some ladies it's a bit different than "she is just still back at stage 1 while you've progressed a bit". For some ladies, the gap is wider. They've progressed...A LOT...unwillingly, kicking and screaming and with massive heartache. You know what highlights this the most right now? Erin posted a request for roll call. http://www.network54.com/Forum/209394/message/1328295847/Roll+call-Check+in-+please+respond%21 Looking at #1 through 14, there's only one - #13 SaraQ - whose story I know. I don't even recognize those other names other than from very recent months. Granted there can still be other postings to follow from #15 onward. But the point is that the ladies that responded RIGHT AWAY are the ones that are active RIGHT NOW. I see so many names missing from that roll call who used to be so active, that for me, it saddens me. Because I've been on the boards now long enough to know that that means that the ladies have moved on in their journey, or have had their journey shut down altogether. "Stage 1" is a distant memory. But no one, at least not me, is taking away from what ladies #1 through #14 are going through or diminishing their fears; we've all been there at some point.
Teresa, apologies if I'm wrong, but it seems that while the original anon post may have been upsetting, your desire to post was triggered by the most recent post by SMRC? Is that the case? If so, then I kindly ask that you understand that SMRC has had a tough journey and is just going through some emotions. In her post she even noted "Argh- just feeling a bit tired/cranky/frustrated after a long drive out to see Dr. C.heck". Do you know how many times she's done that drive? Do you know how long she's been trying? And the challenges she's had? She is one of those women who's moved on waaaaaaaay passed stage 1. Sadly, she just recently suffered a chemical pregnancy from a donor egg cycle at C.ornell. I'm not divulging personal info here, btw. SMRC is on the DE boards, far removed from "stage 1". I'm sure that her post was driven by the crankiness she owned up to; a crankiness that is understandable, IMO. I can't speak for the original anonymous poster but I imagine it came from a similar emotional place.
But to go back to my original opening statement, this is why it's good to put your name to a post, especially when it's one that may be an emotional trigger for some. Because when you know the author you can understand what may be behind it.
Speaking for myself, I don't think you or NancyMN or anyone else who needs help should leave. Heck, you're both going to be at C.ooper...you're going to need all of our support!