WTF, I feel your pain, my SIL is 8 month prg now and even thou I just got my BFP but it was 8 month of torture me. Everyone was acting so awkward around me and even when they found out the babies gender they hid it from me and DH (which is her brother) and we found out from our friend what they are having. This coming week she is having the biggest baby shower ever. they are having like 70 people, DJ, entertainment, catering, just like a big wedding. And they planned all these when her only brother was suffering IF with me. Right, I got my BFP but all these were planned before that and guess what, me and DH were the last people to know about the date of the party they told us after they invited all the guests. Take a note that we leave very close to them so I see her very often.
And I just learned that MIL called my mom and told her “ this is our first grandchild and we would like to celebrate big as we wish I hope you and anna don’t mind coming to the baby shower” my mom didnot tell me this till last week after my BFP. and my mom in respond told her “g-d is great anna might as well be prg on that day”
And then when I told my SIL’s DH about my BFP his response was” oh I am so happy for you, thing has been very awkward and we couldn’t celebrate our prg because of YOU , now we can all celebrate the baby shower as we wished”” WTF?? Was that his only worry? Did I prevent them to be happy or celebrate? Or did they plan a smaller, more down to earth party because of me and her brother? I know maybe his intention was good by saying this but this was so painful to hear. It has been heel of time. Honestly my IF got 10 times worse after she got prg. I fully understand you.
BTW as an example at the mindset of me being so sad at a family dinner, she would show the video of her baby’s heart beat to everyone. It was so so so hard for me. BTW she did 2 IVF to get prg soI though she and her DH would understand better.
Don’t worry some people are ignorant, just put it this way. I have felt the same pain, don’t feel alone. I hope you get your BFP soon.