You are going through a lot right now, aren't you? I'm so sorry about your daughter. I don't know what to say because, as I've found, this stuff is so bad at times and then there are days when I hardly notice it's happened, unfortunately those are the rare days, but Debi, have faith. You are so strong - the kind of woman that motivated me back into action from where I was and you can get through the hard spots. Don't forget you've taught your daugther well, she is much like you, strong, and will fair this better than you think in the end. Just take some time away from it, go do something fun with her, just go to the pool, or go window shopping and lunch. Forget this CSA bull**** for a day or two. I know it's so pervasive, Debi. I am by far one not to give advice about letting go, because I will never,ever do that. And I know you are the same. Just take a little time for yourself today or tomorrow with your daughter. You've given me the same advice and it works. Any time these kids have to think about what happened to them over and over, as we all know, it revictimizes them. And it's not for you to blame yourself that she's thinking about it. But you can help divert her attention to other things. It's not your fault Debi. Don't be so hard on yourself, I know you are dying inside when you see her suffer, I am the same with my babies.
You are such a good mom, she's so lucky. You are a good friend as well. I want you to be good to yourself so you can endure what is to come because you will get there. Are the medications working for her? Do you think that may have been a side effect of the meds? I haven't been on the boards recently, I've been wanting to write but I've been busy. So if I've missed anything, I'm sorry. I think about you all everyday.
Love,
SM
Posted on Jul 3, 2009, 7:17 AM from IP address 24.217.239.118
