Julie,
How terrible to have to deal with such avoidance, denial or just plain stupidity!? I think I would have to tell her not to defend him (or mention him) in front of me at all and that there is NO WAY things will ever be "normal" again. What in the heck WAS normal for our kids anyway? Being abused? If that was "normal" then they can shove it.
I sure hope your DD does not hear these remarks from your MIL.
I certainly can understand how much your own pain is debilitating you. My kids, for the most part, seem to be handeling this WAY better than I am. This week will be our 2 year "anniversary" of disclosurer. It feels like it has been an eternity of pain that will not end.
I wish I could do more to help you. Hang in there and don't be afraid to say what you need to say to MIL for you to heal while realizing that she has her own issues that you can't change.
Many hugs to you and DD.
Ann
Posted on Jul 14, 2009, 7:27 AM from IP address 68.18.76.66
