Hello everyone my name is Jessica! I've come to this message board to try to get opinions or advice or just some input.. If you have any then thank you so much... Ok so here's the story, after me and my ex separated almost 3 years ago i found out he had commited molestation in his past on younger girls.. When he was 15 it was his 5 year old step sister then when he was about 25 he molested my lil sister she was 14 at the time.. He has been an alcoholic for about 8 years as well.. I have seen unusual behaviors in my children off and on for the past few years, by the way we have 3 children together my daughter is 7 and my boys are 3 and 5..
I have taken my kids in before to be checked for sexual abuse and all i've ever gotten is doors slammed in my face.. My kids wouldn't talk when they tried to do a safehouse interview so after 5 min they said well nothing that we can do.. So with no proof or choice he has still been allowed visitations.. Well a couple of weeks ago my niece came out and said my 5 year old son had been touching her innapropriatly.. An investigation was launched with CYFD and their findings were that my son had in fact done it.. CYFD then interviewed me and said since my ex had committed molestation acts in the past that he is a suspect in the case with my kids.. They said that some of the things my son was doing had to have been done to him because it was extremely out of his age range..
Well my kids were with their dad for his half of court ordered summer when i was interviewed by CYFD so i went to the courthouse and got a restraining order based on the situation and it was awarded so i went to the town where my ex lives and had him served and he had to turn my children over to me.. I now have to take them for an interview at CYFD tomorrow but they said if they dont talk then they will strictly refer them to counseling and hopefully eventually my kids will say what has happened to them.. So i feel like once again i'm hitting a brick wall the law states i have to protect my children but it's almost like they are ready to say well we will try to talk to them one time for a lil bit but if nothing comes out of this then oh well... i'm so frustrated... My kids love their dad but something is not right...
My ex took my son and kept him from me for 10 months and when i finally got my son back he was different... Before he left he was a sweet and happy lil boy.. After i got him back he was angry and defensive and acted out extremely... Although he still does some of these things he has gotten alot better since i've gotten him back and that was 2 years ago.. But he's the one that shows the most sexual knoweledge and he's the one that molested my niece.. I have to go to court on the 29th for the restraining order and i'm trying to figure out what i need to do or the proof i need to keep my ex away from my children until this is resolved and we know what's really goin on..
I want to protect my children but i know the law is gonna make it hard without proof but i need longer than a week and a half to get the proof... No child is gonna trust someone that's a stranger and open up after 5 minutes... Has anyone had a similar situation or any input as i said before.. Please help me try to understand this...
Also when my daughter was about 3 i was cleaning her room one day and found where my ex had stuck dirty magazines in between her mattress's and inside the box spring mattress when i confronted him he said he thought that would be the last place i'd look for those kind of magazines and he was just trying to keep them from me... Although i had a bad feeling in my stomach (mind you i didn't know about the stuff from his past) i figured that ok that's possible but kept a close eye on him... Dont know if that could have meant something now tho... ANY help would be appreciated.. Thanks for listening and reading it all... I hope it makes sense and doesn't all seem like mumbo jumbo... thanks
Jessica
Posted on Jul 19, 2009, 4:46 PM from IP address 67.164.158.126
