Sorry you are in this situation. If you can afford it my first piece of advice is to get an attorney. Of couse we hope the kids say something to the investigators when you take them in....but most kids don't and since they are really worried about leading the kids they dont' really ask questions. Before you go to their interview or to court on the 29th sit down and write out a time line of everything. If you haven't started documenting then by all means get on that. Any time one of the kids says something or does something that causes concern you write it down and date each heading. Put it in a spiral notebook or something like that so it is obvious that the documenting was done in order. If you have proof of his background then you need to have that with you and refer to it.
If the kids don't say anything request that the CYFD write down a recommendation for counseling follow up. Then you need to find a counselor. Check the recent court records and see what counselor is testifying for kids on the issue of abuse. That is who you want.
Now when you go to court on the 29th you need to request that your ex husband's parenting time is either suspended or supervised pending a recommendation of the counselor. Be polite and as unemotional as you can. A judge is more likly to listen to you when you say things like, I am concerned about my childrens safety and I want to make sure they are protected while this is all sorted out.
That is about all I can advise....good luck.
Dee
Posted on Jul 19, 2009, 10:38 PM from IP address 72.202.136.182
