The advice... My ex step mother in law (ex husbands step mom) used to be a social worker here in nm and she no longer is married to the ex's dad they divorced around the time we did but she still somewhat talks to him and his dad.. She knows of the situation and the past situation with him and the kids and supports me 100% on what i'm doing.. But she has told me that while this program is good she is afraid they are misleading me on the facts. They told me that i wouldn't be given up any rights but they would have to make his decisions so i would have to sign over some sort of rights i would think.. She also said it could play against me later on and they would decide when he would come home and i'm not comfortable about that..
They did tell me no matter what if it happens again they will consider it failure to protect whether it's my kids or some other child at daycare or in the family.. I dont see how my son being taken away from me for 10 months with limited contact then getting him back for 2 years and then losing him again for who knows how long will help him at this point. If anything i'd think to a certain extent it could cause issues of trust with him and fear that he's experienced before in his life of not havin me around.. My other children are 3 and 7 my 3 year old is a boy and my 7 year old is a girl. BUT they are all children and i know he needs help but why they are pushing me to take this course of action i dont know... I could just as easily keep the children apart and take him to counseling everyday that he would do there just like the foster parents could.. I'm his mom and although i didn't know about it before i do feel guilty i didn't protect them but i am aware of it now and i want to insure all my children are safe... I'm lucky to have an awesome fiance that supports me and is willing to help me every step of the way.. Anymore advice would be greatly appreciated.. But thanks so much..
Jessica
Posted on Jul 20, 2009, 10:11 PM from IP address 67.164.158.126
